There is no need to double post.
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Should I quit online dating, and start building up my confidence in real life first ?
Seems like subconsciously you already know what the issue is. You have yet to get out the house and put in the work necessary to build yourself and your character into someone that women are actually going to respect. Deleting your online accounts and just getting go out the house doing that ( if you even have the will) would be the way to go.
Guys always make it seem like getting a girl on a date is doing something. I'd go on a lot more dates too if women were messaging me online everyday asking to buy me dinner and to buy me drinks. Who doesn't want free food?
And yes looks are important to a degree, but whats more important is how you feel about yourself. I always say that a woman cares more about what you think of yourself than she does about what she thinks of you, and she cares more about what you think of her, than what she thinks of you. When you learn how to use those two things to your advantage, you'll find yourself becoming a lot more successful with them.