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I wonder, Stoliar and HJ, if let's say you were in a relationship and decided to make it open. What if your girl was sleeping with 3 other guys and you were sleeping with 1 tops? Would that bode well for you?
Why would a PUA only be getting 1 other girl? Your question makes no sense, and could be turned around...
Moreover, it shouldn't matter. You're conflating sex with love, which is understandable considering society has also done so. If a person is getting the amount of sex and partners they want, and their partner is getting the amount of sex and partners they want... why should anyone care?
In fact, in polyamory circles there's a concept/emotion called compersion. Essentially it is being happy because your partner is happy. So if your girl is out getting gangbanged by the local Basketball team and comes home super happy, you'd be happy for her.
People have a hard time with jealousy. Especially the guys. I have been training myself to let go of the jealousy aspect to truly reach polyamory status. Jealousy is useless to me since I am already having sex with the girl. Just one less emotion that i don't need that probably served a purpose back in the caveman days when it was a tribal circumstance.
I think guys are most likely to get into a monogamous relationship because of that one trait. They would rather reach exclusive status as fast as possible and get their "fantasy" girl off the market. It's an ego thing to be honest. That's why one of the favorite insults I hear from dudes is "i banged your girl" or "your girl is hitting me up" etc.
Guys get territorial like crazy. If I say hi to their chick, they start barking lol.