I don't really have a big problem with approach (no more than most people I think), and I am pretty quick on my feet so I can do the negs and I can build interest pretty quickly. My big problem is building attraction, the kind of attraction and teasing, and sexual tension that will allow me to f-close. I am not sure how to get there. I mean I am really good in disarming people and letting them talk and really understanding them, and girls love that. But then sometimes they like it so much it pushes me into that "wow what a great listener" position, and not that, "I am so hot for this guy now" position. How do I get there? I guess I may be doing this wrong. Is it DHVs, is it negs, kino? How do I get there/