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Hello,I have a question.
Yesterday I was in a club and walked up to this girl and used this line.
Hey guys, I need to get your opinion on something. It's very important, and we need a woman's perspective. It's a matter of life and death.. My friend and I were having a debate and your answer could completely change my entire life....
Do you brush before floss or floss before brush? No one knows!
And I did it pretty cool,but after that I just run out of he things to say,and in that kind of situation I always get stupid questions in my brain, for example:how old are you? Where do you go to college? And stuff like that.It is not that I get frozen,I just don't know what to say,so I stoped being interesting to her so after couple of minutes she said that she had a boyfriend.
I would be super grateful for your advices.
Thanks in advance!
You need what I call a "transition strategy" which basically a specific thing you say to change the topic after
your opener.
For example, after I open with something random and the topic dries out, I change it with "So what else do you
do besides..."
"So what else do you do besides just shopping and talking with cute guys...?"
"So what else do you do besides laying on a beach and drinking mojitos...?"
"So what else do you do besides going to school and reading books...?"
It's a cool way to change the topic.
In your case,
you didn't come up with a transition strategy to go from talking about the opener, to
changing the topic and talking about something else in a real conversation.
You can use:
"You know I didn't really care about brushing and flossing, I just saw you from over there and that was
the first thing that came up. What's up?"
"That's the most dorky answer I got. I think I'm going to call you dorky from now on...So dorky, what else do
you do besides talking about flossing with cute guys...?"
The real point is that you try it, and see how they work for you.
I'd highly recommend you write out couple of
transition strategies on a piece of paper, and test them live. Soon you'll have one that works for you.
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