Hello guys, so i found this forum be very good, and i want to tell a bit about my self first a bit, and then my problem. I hope you find time to read this long post, thank you.
About my self (shortest as possible):
So im a guy, that comes from an alcoholic familly, there was much alcoholism in my childhood. There were episodes in my life, where i was a small boy, where i could only count on my self. And as specialists saying, are that, that the children from alcoholic families, are very insecure, and has low self confidence later in life. That´s true with me tough. I had no problems with male-friends in primary school. On the other hand, i was totally AFC, i was a quiet guy. Never talked to the girls. So when i went to highschool i meet new people, it was really hard to socialize with them, because of the anxiety, of low self confidence. But i pushed my self. I met a new special buddy from my class, which is my best friend now. almost like a brother. He´s a natural and has plenty of confidence, he is good with women. He always compliments me, i exercisning muscels etc, he always compliment my new clothes, muscels etc in class, that´s nice of him. Since i meet him, it gone up for me, that im something worth. So i started to search many pua sites. And i started to read Richard La Ruina book, that tells how to not be AFC and how to be good with women, but the book did not helped me to actually, how to have the balls to use these techniques. In the last few months, i heard of this EFT technique where i tapp my self and tried it, i was suprised how it helped me gaining my self confidene.
So today:
Im much more confident, i talk to random people at my street etc, and my work, i work at a big store, i smile to all people and talk to them. EFT helped with this. But, i still struggle with women. Im 18 now and still virgin. There was a high shcool party, few months ago. Where i writed on paper, that i set a rule to approach minmum 5 women, i wrote it and readed it, in my head. And before i went out to party, i tapped my self (EFT), to not fear retjection and to gain confidence. I had memorized all Richard la ruina´s techniques from his book. So i went to that party, i felt pretty good and comfortable, if i did not tapped my self, i would have butterflies in stomach, and would act insecure. I sitted with my best buddies from class, and we played cards and had the best time. But i raised from my chair, and wanted to meet new people, i shaked hans with guys, and talked to them, i went to the dance scene without problems and anxiety, and joined male groups. But there was one thing, i could not approach women, i saw group of women, some standing alone, but i just could not. It´s here where EFT losses it´s promises. Maybe i do not tell my self the right thing, when im tapping dunno. Anyways because of my alcoholic childhood im filled with these beliefs that, im not a good enough guy for such a girl because im from alcoholic familly, or how can i be a boyfriend that comes from an alcoholic familly etc. In the last end, i approached two girls setting to together, but because my low confidence i go totally AFC, and forget all Richard la Ruina approach rules, and making the worst approach ever, and i get a retjection, they ignore me. I feeling bad. Here is where EFT comes to be handy, i go to toilet and tapping out the retjection, and im feeling good again, i forget about the retjection. But when i tapped my self, then strange things happening, for 10 mins or so, i felt very confident, i walked like i owned the building and was comfortable to hold eye contact to all girls i passed by, i saw that some girls noticed me, but i had not enough confidence to open them, but after the 10 mins the confidence stopped, i could not look people at the eyes, i do not walk like a lion. This EFT works strange for me. It works in a short amout of time. It seems the EFT is not strong enough to me, or i not saying the right things to tapp the approach anxiety out. Im sitting here home alone, with no women, and it´s pissing me off. There is no alcoholism in my familly anymore in one year now, they stopped drinking, so that´s good.
So im here to ask, where can i get some more of these NLP techiniques, to change my beliefs. I would like to heal my self confidenec on my own. And i can not just man up and approach, i tried everything. Im so insecure from my childhood, that i just not have the balls to do these approaches without som exercises, and mind changes. It could by hypnosis, NLP whatever, i don´t care about the price, i have the money. I want some good product that can make me confident with the shortest amout of time. I know i will not get confident in a week, but a product that can change my find, i heard some here got help from hypnosis. I need something that can help me change my beliefs.
I hope you can help me guys, have a nice day