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You're like most guys man.
Everyone is confident when their friends are around; which is why I don't have much respect for the guys that need wingman to pick up women. If you want to enhance the fun and challenge yourself and someone else get a wingman, but if you're not able to approach solo, you may want to take care of that first.
Leaders create the energy that everyone else clings onto in a social circle. Followers just take part of the energy within the group.
You want to fix it you have to work at it. You have to begin getting out alone and pushing yourself into uncomfortable situations. And approaching women is certainly a great place to start.
I always say.. "Character isn't just what you do when no one is watching; character is what you do when your friends aren't watching." Everyone is cool, hip, and courageous when they have a support system, someone to "impress". But true growth comes when you begin caring about impressing yourself. The man you have to live with every day,
Okey. Yeah that sounds logical.
I have to force my self out there on my own.
I even have this problem when I'm with a friend, guy or girl. Maybe it's just my social competence that's not that great when I'm just one on one so I can be funny, just serious and talk about boring serious things like jobs and I feel like it's just becomes 100 questions. And the same when I'm trying to pick up a girl, 100 questions without any fun.
I did a MM's session a couple of years ago in Stockolm, I think it was Sinn who where there talking, we went out on some clubs, and I did okey up until the part when my social skills stopped me. That's my big problem.
I don't want to have it like that that I have to bounce with friends, I want to be confident and funny in one on one situations, even with friends.