I've already introduced myself in the introducing form here's the link so I don't have to explain anymore.
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I'm going to use this as a "journal," so to speak, to show my progress. If you see anywhere I could improve or have advice it'll be greatly appreciated.
On this journey I've started going out more. Usually after work I'd just go home and jump on the computer and play games or do something dumb at home. I started going out probably 3-5 times a week now. This could either be a store or a nightclub on weekends. When I'm out to stores I've been trying to just talk to random people and saying hello and smiling to women. I'm not shy with other guys, just unknown women I'm extremely shy to. I go out to a restaurant every Thursday where I know there's a high chance of cute women waitresses. So far both times, I've only been trying to improve my game for 2-3 weeks, I've had two chicks. One was really cute and I talked to her for a bit. Whenever I was seated the lady that took me to my seat got my drink order for me, which at the place they never do. Whenever my waitress came up, she started to ask for my drink and stopped and stuttered halfway through once she saw my drink already was there. This caused her to freeze momentary and I made a funny remark about it and she laughed and said that's really weird the lady got my drink. The whole time I was there I felt like we had a good connection, but I didn't ask for her number because I froze up. However, I did feel like it was a huge accomplishment just for carrying a good conversation with a cute girl. The
The second time I went to the restaurant I had a decent looking chick, nothing like the first one. I tried to flirt and what not, but she seemed like she was there and just wanting to leave. I always get dessert when I'm there. I knew what I was wanting, but instead was looking through the menu and "acted" like I couldn't decide what I wanted. I asked her if she had to order what would it be. She went off on one of the desserts like it was the holy grail of desserts. It was the dessert I was going to order anyway. She said she liked it a certain way. I ordered it but didn't try it the way she liked it. I've got it before and it is usually served really small, but she made it full of random stuff like oreo's, sneakers, and a ton of ice cream. It's just a normal brownie Sunday fyi. I didn't ask for her number either, but felt like I made another huge accomplishment just doing what I did. Also while I was there, there were two other girl waitresses that were really cute. One of them looked over at me and starred for quite a while, I caught her starring and maintained eye contact for a few seconds, smiled and broke contact.
Every weekend I try to go out to clubs. I always take a few friends with me and have a good time. One of my friends is married, so he doesn't really try to pick up women. My other friend I've seen him only have one girlfriend and that's the only time I've ever seen him with a woman. The first night I talked about in the link at the top of the page. My married friend did not go the first weekend we went out. Back in college he was wildly successful with women.
The second weekend I went out we had all three of us. We went to a few places and just hung out and had a good time, smile and raise small conversations with women. Nothing big yet, just trying to get used to the scene. Probably in a month I'll start trying to get numbers. While we was there, my married friend knows all the Managers so we get in for free and the managers always come and talk to us. One of the managers is a Blonde chick. He was talking to her and introduced us to her. She shook my friends hand and when he introduced me, I made eye contact and smiled and said "It's nice to meet you." I started to extend my hand but before I got my and halfway lifted she move my arm outwards and hugged me and said "You look like you need a hug." I was completely thrown off by this. I think it was a good sign. After that she had to get back to work and left.
Later that night we went to my first strip club, I was extremely sheltered when I was younger and raised in a very religious manner. I still have the religious beliefs, well some of them now, not all of them. While we was at the strip club we just sat back at a table and watched the strippers. There was an old man next to us that probably spent his entire retirement there, seriously I lost count of how many lap dances he got, and the two hottest strippers we're all over him. During that time we just had a good time, my friends ended up pissing off pretty much any waitress, or stripper that came over. One of my friends said something about the stripper next to us and she heard and looked over, looked at my friends with a huge pissed off face and then looked at me. I just made eye contact with her, smiled real big and waved. She perked up, smiled and waved back and then continued milking the old man for money. We went to leave and my friend ordered us a round of shots before we left. One of the waitress was talking to the bartender and I overheard her saying how rude we we're to her. She pointed over to me and said except him he was fine. The bartender said something to me about it and I just told her that they we're really drunk and we was leaving. This was just this Friday.
Also at the gym where I work out at there's a few good looking chicks that workout. I try to never hit on them there. My two workout buddies, two different friends, are both way more attractive than I am and are both naturally charming and can get women every night they go out. (Except one because he's married, but he still hits on anything that walks by). I've started to hang out with them more just because of how much better they are and I can pick up on how they do it. But back to the chicks at the gym, I never have talked to the women there, because I know they just want to work out. Both my friends know everyone at the gym. The other day while I was walking in one of the better looking chicks is walking out done with her workout, and I made eye contact, smiled and said "Dang you're already done today?" she smiled back and replied back "yeah I got here a little bit earlier today." Then I ended the conversation, just with the most generic "well have a good day." and she said " you too". I could have expanded on this but didn't. Still felt like an accomplishment because she has an amazing body and I've never talked to her before.
Next weekend I really just want to stay home and relax. Since starting this, it seems to be wearing me out. Changing from a pretty much comfortable and passive life style to a uncomfortable active life style. I'll probably talk myself into going though. Any way, this seems like a huge step for me. What do ya'll think?