The weekend was filled with escapades. AB girl basically went to the supermarket with her friends and then to Cafe Mexicali, and brought me a burrito for the Cafe. I meet up with her, she gives me the burrito, I give her a hug (she hugs me around me neck), and then I meet up with MC bro. We troll a meetup event with some other folks.
I dressed up like a gangsta, red collared shirt with a necklace and bracelet, dark pants, gangsta belt and boots. MC bro wears red pants with a tie and a dark collared shirt. Another one of our friends, MO bro, also goes with a red collared shirt, but with a tie. Because we're all wearing red, it looks gay as hell.
CY girl and R girl arrive, we hug them and greet them, and start talking to the random meetup people, both guys and girls. I'm emulating MC bro the whole time, and taking note as he leans back, leans in to whisper something in the girl's ear, isolates girls by bringing them in to sit down, etc. etc. I'm self amusing, and getting a lot more comfortable with being more physical. CY girl is flirting a lot, and getting drunk. She keeps twisting my nipples. We joke about bathroom sex. She's really hand-sy. She's also flirting with MC bro, though. There's a slammin' engaged girl in a red dress, A girl, that MC bro wants to bang. He isolates her and they're chatting one on one for a long time, but nothing beyond that. We head to blind pig and start dancing.
I dance dirty with a bunch of girls, and talk to MC bro a bit. I ask him for advice (he's better on the dance floor), and he tells me that I should dance sexy, not goofy and fun. I take his advice to heart, and try to bring out my sexy side more. MO bro ends up making out with a cute older girl, MC bro mentions how he's jealous, that girl's sexy as hell. Props to MO bro, sometimes you just have to go for it. I danced with that girl too, and she was one of the ones that was more down. It goes to show that if you push harder with girls that are down, you get rewarded.
MC bro and I leave, and hit up rec room together. I'm feeling lower energy now, and didn't feel great for the second half of the night, but MC bro starts buying me drinks to get me riled up. I tell him to do me a favor and call me a pussy to make me start approaching. He complies. I comply. I get blown out on a dance floor approach, probably because I came in from the back and tapped her on the shoulder to ask for permission. #nogame
I approach another group, self amuse a little too hard, and the girls get annoyed and peace out when I stalwartly assert that my real name is Bruce Lee. I approach a girl sitting by herself, it goes neutral. Satisfied that I've proved to myself (and in the back of my stupid brain, to MC bro) that I'm a man with balls, we leave to grab calzones. We talk about our different goals with girls. We conclude that MC bro should push me in the beginning of the night to start approaching (it's been a loooooooong time since I've done cold approach pick-up hahahaha) so I can gather momentum.
The last girl of the night that I approached arrives at the food place. I call her over. The three of us chat, and it goes well. She enjoys the interaction, probably because neither of us give a shit and we are just self-amusing. MC bro got the number of a cute blonde girl at rec room, but I can tell he's already in trouble by the way he's talking about her: "She's so hot, she probably just wants frat guys, I'm so intimidated by hot girls that know they're hot, etc. etc."
We peace out, and I vow that I'm going to start cold approaching again to build up my skills.
Saturday I wake up and head to the library. I do a bunch of work, and randomly AB girl walks by and greets me. I smirk at her and talk to her. She starts giggling in between talking. We make small chat and eventually she leaves. I do some more work and then I leave.
I head to Odell's, for my friend E bro's birthday. A bunch of my old Jiu Jitsu friends are there, and it's nice to see everyone and goof off with everyone. There's a couple of pretty girls at the table, and I'm making everyone laugh, but the pretty girls are all married, lol. Nonetheless, it's fun and it's good practice. We grab pizza after and then AH bro, CN girl (his wife), and I go to Crankenstein's so that I can meet up with CG girl. We meet up with her, and AH bro comments how every time he sees me I'm with a new girl.
I go in with CG girl, and she seems slightly off. I'm still practicing escalation for the hell of it. She says something and I lean in and tell her she's making me hard. She laughs and tells me I better slow my roll. We get in, I meet her friend, and CG girl and I sit down to chat. Our legs are touching. We chat more. Then we get up, I put my hands on her shoulders as we walk through the crowd to the band. We dance together a little. I get up behind her and she leans back into me. I get greeted by another female friend. Then another. The first one, HH girl (tri girl from awhile ago), is animatedly talking to me.
I get greeted by another bro. CG girl is talking to a friend, so I take the opportunity to talk to my friends. Then CG girl is awkwardly standing around while I talk to my friends. CG girl then needs to go, and asks me to walk her out. I walk her to her bike, and she starts with, "I gotta be honest..." I instantly pick up on what's up, smile, and say, "Oh I understand, no worries." She says, "You don't even know what I was going to say!" I reply with "I can guess," still smirking. She's like, "Yeah, I just don't see it working out," I'm completely emotionally unaffected, lol, and she comments, "You're so stoic," I tell her I can cry if it will make her feel better, and mime crying. She actually starts feeling offended that I don't care at all. Lol. I bid her good night, and go to meet up with Z bro at Trailhead.
I'm actually pretty impressed with myself about how little I cared. I think it might have been the comment earlier that week that I made that offended her, plus I actually didn't think that we got along all that great anyways. It was good practice using her as a crash dummy for escalation tactics, so I must thank her for that.
Z bro and I sit and have a great chat. We start talking about girls, and I find out that Z bro is actually pretty good, and someone that I can learn from. We start exchanging stories. I tell him about how I don't have trouble attracting and getting into rapport with girls, but I have trouble escalating in a one on one situation, and he tells me how he's the exact opposite. He shares his escalation techniques. He tells me about the time he got crabs, I tell him about the time I got chlamydia. We share out mutual hatred of condoms, but I let him know that I will definitely be using them in the future, lol. I tell him the now infamous HR girl poop sex story, he laughs his ass off. A group of three girls join in right next to us, and Z bro, being a true gentleman, gives up his chair and gets two more chairs for the girls. They love him for it. We chat very briefly, and I am definitely impressed at how a seemingly chode-y behavior can come off as not needy at all, and truly gentleman-ly, if done with the right sub communications. I vow to hang out with Z bro and MC bro more to learn as much as I can from these two fine gentlemen.
CM girl (a girl I TA'd last semester, super hot) and her friend, A girl, arrive and greet us. We chat a bit about Mormonism (they're both ex-Mormons), and the conversation is nice and friendly. I didn't game super tightly, maybe just cuz CM girl was super hot. Need to shake my head and get that shit out of my system. They eventually leave, and we leave, too. We should've talked to the three set from before, because we already had an in, but Z bro and I both brain farted on that one.
We get to Lucky Joe's, and sit, and Z bro is feeding me alcohol the entire time. What a stand up guy. JK bro arrives (prodigy), and we all sit and chat about game. It's a good vibe, and all three of us are laughing and having a good time. We have another round of beers, and sing along with the performer. A cute girl is sitting right next to me, but with her back to me. She turns around and looks at me, I say something witty, and she laughs and turns around. The rest of the time, I should've engaged more, but the angle was awkward and the music was loud. I'm probably just making excuses and should just nut the fuck up. I don't feel any approach anxiety, but I do feel a lack of motivation. It's so much easier to sit and chill. Don't worry, I'll turn this around, it's just like getting back on a bicycle.
The three of us leave, and go to blind pig. Z bro buys 2 shots!!! of Fireball and a PBR for each of us. Holy shit, I'm gonna get smoked like a piece of meat off this. I wasn't even planning on drinking at all. We down those, I make brief eye contact with a tall raven sitting next to her chubby friend, all lonely like. I tell JK bro I'm going to approach, and then I do. Maybe that's the key, as soon as I tell a bro I'm going to approach, I'm kind of locked in and can't back out without being a huge pussy. Gaming yourself is more important that gaming the girl.
It's an awkward bar angle, but whatever. I lean up, say hi, and introduce myself. We start chatting. I start getting some good responses, the girls are fun and give me shit, I call them on their bullshit, and we go back and forth. They ask me what I do, I need to practice my vision speech more. Don't worry, I'll get this down too. I start touching the tall girl on her arm, and leaning in to whisper. Good practice. A dude comes in that they both know, and ruins the vibe. They both turn around, and I'm awkwardly on the outside, so I eject. Afterwards, I realize that I should've immediately addressed the guy. Next time!
Z bro, JK bro, and I play big Jenga. Girls come in and out, and I flirt and practice on them, but by know I'm wasted out of my mind. Damnit, I'm going to stop drinking in the future, but I can't help it if people buy me drinks! I didn't pay a single cent the entire night! A girl approaches me, asks me if she can play, I reply that I don't know, I'm not sure how cool she is yet. She leaves. Oops. More girls come, one girl keeps calling me drunk-face. I practice physicality on her. Z bro's unattractive friend, CoCo girl, arrives. I tell her I'm Coo Coo for CoCo Puffs. We start taking pictures. I point to my cheek and CoCo kisses it. I rest my head on her boobs. Yup I'm drunk. Good experience, though.
DR girl, a girl from my lab, randomly sees me, and enthusiastically gives me a hug and is SO excited to see me, before her fat friend drags her off. She keeps randomly catching my eye contact throughout the night, but I'm drunk as fuck to properly game.
We go to Bondi's dance a bunch, I dance with CoCo girl and another random girl mostly, and then Z bro drives me home.
Sunday I do more work throughout the day, and then hang out with JS girl later. We grab food, watching Furious 7, and call it a night. She's super into me now, and I'm like meh. It's still fun hanging with her though, and good practice.
Monday morning, I go to the park and do a photo shoot so my OKC profile and Tinder profile will get some SICK photos on it, and I'll start gaming on there more.
ANALYSIS
Starting to get back into cold approach, and it'll take a week or two to get back in the swing of it. All about gaming myself to make myself approach.
- When I know I should approach, tell a friend that I will approach.
- Approach early in the night so I have momentum the rest of the night.
Physical Escalation starting to feel normal and comfortable
- Watching RSD and Liam McRae on YouTube for good examples of this.
- Hanging around and talking to MC bro and Z bro more
- Practicing this more and more, and it should feel totally comfortable and normal soon
I also have a problem, a bad habit where whenever girls show interest, I make it more of a challenge or I brush them off and play disinterested. This is absolute garbage, and foolish, and I need to retrain myself to reward with my own interest whenever they show interest.
- Going to reward when girls show interest with either kino, or good conversation with good emotions.
Also going to practice hooking a set better with the technique "Become an authority in her world", or as RSD calls it, "Tell her about herself". Everyone wants to hear about themselves, and this is why old school tactics like U/C smiles and the Cube worked so well. I will come up with my own or try out Jason Capital's "Oath face" routine in the future, this will definitely help in hooking sets quickly and efficiently.
- Come up with my own routine so I stay congruent don't feel like a PUA dumbass if I whip this out
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