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Recently, I had a girl invite me to her place for a few drinks a week after we had our first date. I was pumped up at the offer, because whenever I get invited to a chick's house late at night I fully expect to get into her pants that night, knowing that anything else would be a failure on my part.
So after an hour or so of drinking and chatting I started making moves on her. She was kissing me back but didn't seem fully engaged or into it. I decided to take initiative after more kissing and walked her to her room. I put her on her bed, took of her shirt and bra, and we continued making out as i started to remove my clothes. I played with her boobs which she allowed and seemed to like, and we were grinding our bodies together.
And then when I went to put my hand in her pants she pulled it away. Undeterred, I continued kissing her and then went for it again. She stopped me again, with the dreaded "we are not having sex tonight."
"That's fine," I said, and continued making my moves. She seemed to be into it at this point and even started stroking my knob. She got on top of me and started grinding herself against me. I made one last attempt to rip her pants off and she told me she was on her period and we couldn't do it.
The intensity started to wind down a bit but I was so worked up and horny I felt like I needed a consolation prize. I asked her to give me a blowjob to which she declined. I then tried to get her to put her hand back on my dick and she wouldn't do it. I think at this point I may have gotten a little overeager because I tried a couple more times before realizing I was doing more harm than good. I smiled at her and said, "you win" as we started to get dressed.
Throughout the process, she kept mentioning "you're so aggressive!" and I wonder how this will impact my chances of laying this girl. I pulled out all the stops and may have even crossed the line a little, but in my experience girls tend to forgive men for behavior like this. It makes them feel wanted and fulfills their femininity in a way.
However, the argument could be made that I acted like a pig, made moves too quickly, and turned her off.
I'm not sure if I will see her again (she did text me the next day) but in general, do you think I made the right moves? In the heat of the moment, it is SO hard for me to put my junk away and call it quits because I get so worked up. But if it ultimately costs me lays I may need to tone it down.
Sex is a competition for you, that's why she didn't open up to you.
"You win"
You're a value taker and not a giver - why would she want to share an experience with you? Sex is validation for you, why would she be a tool for that?
It's obvious in the way you write that you have nothing in you that speaks to the woman inside her. All women want to be charmed, seduced and ravaged, but they have to
feel something first.
Was going to write exactly what that is, but after re-reading your post, it's obvious that you would use the information as a weapon against women.
In your mind right now, you probably are reeling from this, thinking "fuck this guy, what does he know", and you will probably write an answer making a big show of how I've got you all wrong so that everyone on this forum is as deluded as you... But between you and me, we both know this. Deep down, you need to come to terms with your love of women. You need to truly love them - without wanting anything in return.
If you can do just that. If you can be like a kid reaching for a cookie with beautiful women, then they will call you non stop wondering when you're coming over... In this 'game' everyone wins.
Mack
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