This is so basic I am ashamed of asking it. But I will anyway because I fuck things up here.
So here we go:
My usual issues are how to go from interest to meet again. I described them here:
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Then recently I went to dance and met a girl. And we had attraction, but did not ask her out nor did I ask her number. You can read myself whining about it here:
moving-from-interest-to-meeting-again-vt186921.html
And then I met her again. I was just walking through the street and I see this amazingly beautiful women (ok, she is probably "just" an 8 in objective standards, but I like her a lot) waving at me. I obviously turn around wondering who is she waving to. It's not lack of self esteem, I am in this town from less than a week. The probability she was waving at me are quite thin. But not zero, in fact...
she came toward me and say: "
no you, don't you remember we danced together some days ago?".
Hmm (I actually went to dance even yesterday but she is much nicer than the girl I met yesterday, and way more friendly). Then it clicked:
Oh yes, you are [her name].
Yes
so we chat a bit. And then just before she was about to leave I asked her:
it would be nice to meet up again. But not just at the dance class. Maybe we could take something and discuss about [common interest].
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Sure I will give you my phone number
Me in panic, I am terrible in phone game. Totally forgetting there is something called whattsup
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give me your email address. My phone is not from this country and we would spend a lot.
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[gives the email address]
-ok, I send you an email straighaway so you have mine too.
Later I send her an email inviting her for tomorrow, thursday, to take tea and cake in the late afternoon and speak about what we said above. Saying that I was going away for the weekend [true]. I know, very english
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Her answer.
Tea and cake would be great, but tomorrow is my busy day. Let's meet after you come back from your trip.
And now I am stuck and I really need help. Because I come back on sunday evening. On monday evening there is the dance class. So if I don't do anything we will meet at the dance class. But somehow it would give extra brownie points if we could meet some other places, so I wasn't just her friend from dance. Here are my options I see and the problems I see coming
We can meet before, eat something so we want be starving like last time, and then walk to the dance class together.
[problem: last time she said she was rushing to the class, so she is probably busy before. Collecting no is not a good strategy]
We can meet at the dance class and then have dinner together. I know a very good place with ytaditional food from here where I would like to go. But I am also open to other options.
[this is the most ambitious. But too heavy. Sound like a Date -which in fact totally is-]
We can meet up at the dance class and there we decide when and where to meet again
[I don't like this. Minimum I stumble on the logistic, plus I don't like taking those decisions in the class [what if someone invites itself], plus again I am the friend from dance]
If I suggest a time and place she can be busy again (maybe she really is!).
So a better option would be:
"sure when would it fit you"
[simple elegant, but she can answer: let's decide on monday].
And an even better is:
"Sure, let's decide after my trip when to meet again".
This I like, is a bit of a push. Then on sunday I could fire her an email with:
wow the trip was wonderful, you should have seen the festival, So have you thought when would it fit you to meet up? I am free on ... or also ...
What do you think? What would you write?