Dallas. Recently out of LTR.
10/6/14
Daygame. Gym. HB 8.5. Some girl I'd been checking out for a while. Nice legs. Walk straight up, not a single ounce of doubt in my head... I'd been talking to a pretty cool guy that raised my state beforehand. Can't remember what I said -- but she adored the confidence. Seemed smitten.
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Beedrill: "We should grab coffee together. Do you want to grab coffee with me sometime?"
HB 8.5: Pretty smitten and clear cut "yes"
Beedrill: # Close, "I'll let you get back to the gym now. You seem pretty into it; I always see you here".
***** She was the only one in play here, so I caught oneitis on this one pretty quick. Damn.
Texted her pretty quick, she tells me she's dating someone. I plow through, text goes well for a little bit, but my eagerness showed in my frequency and caliber of texts. Asked her out again, no reply. Dead zone. Next.
Lessons learned:
1. Approach face up. Its the alpha way of doing it if they like you.
2. If they are too shy to talk, you have to do the talking.
3. Control oneitis.
4. Plow through bf excuses.
10/10/14
Nightgame. Bar. Walk in with the state, 'I'm the man, and every girl in here wants to bang me'. Open an HB8 with my nightgame opener: "Hi I'm (Beedrill)", with an extended handshake. Don't remember what was said. She was into me. Touch her nose ring or something. She likes it. Build rapport, body language very confident. Should have touched her more to lock in more, since alpha female friend decided it was time for a drink. They went to get a shot. I saw her with some guy who looked like a tool. Locked eyes with her for 5 sec or so as shes talking to him with a devious smile on both ends.
Got some drinks with friends. I'll see her later if I don't find someone else.
I want a cigarette. Open 2 set, HB9 & HB6, "I'm going to use you for a cigarette". She complies. Notice something rare in common with the HB9 (won't say to remain anonymity). Build rapport with her very quickly... Attraction was accomplished with not much effort.
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Beedrill: "Lets go get a shot. Comeon."
HB9: "Ok, just one shot".
Grab her hand, take her to the bar. As soon as we get there she puts her face 3 inches from mine. She wants to makeout. Do it. A good 8 minutes were making out in the middle of the bar blocking traffic. Felt like a badass. Tell her we should just go back to myself (dumb move). She shakes her head now, continues making out. Tried this a good 3 times. Let her go back to her friend so I could go back to my friends. See her again. She looks smitten. Some guy talks to her, he's pretty good looking so I have to get her off him if I want any chance at an SNL. Stand confidently and smile at her as she's talking to him. She locks my eyes, stares with a smile for 4+ secs as he's talking to her. Next 60 seconds he's ejected himself from set. At this point I have her #, so I text her about 2am, "Next week is such a long time (we have plans to hang out)". She replies with a frowny face and some stuff. At the end of the day she's not gonna budge. Also she's probably flaking from some guilt from the bar thing.
Anyways, in between this and 2 am, I go to the next bar. Don't waste much time, immediately open someone, HB8. Same opener. She's into me. About 2 minutes in, some wannabe pua walks in and puts his arm around both the girl I'm talking to and her friend (which I'm ignoring, she seems fine). I don't have enough lock in to secure attention, so I eject myself. All that guy did was blow out another guy. He wasn't getting any.
Next set. Same opener. Girl looks pissed, HB9, I don't care, same opener. She responds positively. Hang out with her til 2 am. # close. date close. She's not down for an SNL, too much of a good girl. I'd been escalating touch. She's submissive but not responsive. Date on 10/11.
Lessons learned:
1. My opener is fine
2. Lock in earlier with more touching
3. The first goal in a set is to bounce them to a different location
4. Don't tell a girl 'we should just go back to my place'. Its an invitation for ASD. Escalate touch, and as I'm doing that, take her hand and say 'lets go get some drinks at my place'.
10/11/14
Date with HB9. Took her out to dinner & drinks. Walked her around my part of time to some bars. Things are going really well, I like her. Told her we should just go back to my place and watch TV, bars are too noisy. She makes similar comments about bars, which I read as her submissive way of agreeing with me. Take her back to my apt. She locks up as soon as she gets there; dead zone. Feel too guilty to manipulate her. Obviously ended badly from here.
Lessons learned:
1. Comfort game is pretty good, but I need to be escalating more
2. Don't take a girl back unless you are in the right phase of seduction. ASD can kill you fast.
10/13/14
Daygame. Pass a girl I've talked to flirtatiously (eye contact, body language). Stop her. Tell her we should go for a run on Wednesday. # Close, follow up planned.
Nightgame. I feel really locked up. AA is in. Still confidently smiling at girls. Luckily HB8 approaches me and asks my name. Says her and her friend are arguing about my name. Says her friend said we'd be really good together. She says we should go buy a shot. I say OK if we buy each others' shots. She pays for both. This girl is bad news, I can tell, I'm not going to take this girl out. I locked in with, "I'm your new boyfriend", and put my arm around her. # close, but then, in rapport, I mention a detail about myself that puts a huge red flag in her friends' head, and the friend becomes a major problem. I eject. I chased her around the bar a couple times, kind of like artificial one-itis since she was quite literally the only attractive girl in the bar. I go for the 10% gamble of texting her that night that she 'can come over to watch a movie tomorrow'. No response. Fine with me.
Next bar. Apparently its the night where all the bartenders and bouncers come out. Hell yeah. Going around and messing with girls, not trying to really close since no one is that hot to me except this one waitress. Talked her to briefly on dance floor, but couldn't lock in fast enough. Ejected to remain a state of not being a chaser. Tried talking to her later. She was talking to her friend.
Beedrill: "Hi, your name is xxx right?". Blown the f-out so quick. Didn't even turn to look at me (I guess that saves face a little bit at least). AFC move.
Start dancing with some blonde HB6. I'm a pretty good dancer, don't do this grind and bump crap, actually use hands, spins, and the works. She says I'm good. Made out with her later in the night. She almost came over, but didn't, probably because my wing didn't really want her friend and her friend probably talked her out of it. She texted me in the morning, not gonna respond.
Lessons Learned:
1. Avoid the conversation detail that screwed me over.
2. No more AFC approaches. Even if its the only hot girl in the room.
--Beedrill
more coming
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