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PostPosted: Sat Sep 20, 2014 3:31 pm 
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Just as the title says, I feel like with my practice in daygaming I can approach sets during the day without much difficulty or anxiety, but when it comes to nightgame and clubs...for some reason I honestly just "freeze up".

I'm definitely a very analytical introvert, and growing up as a "keep-to-myself" introvert, I find it extremely difficult for me to approach in a club and bar setting. First off, the bars and clubs I'm usually at have extremely loud music, and that throws off how I'd usually do a conversation. I feel like I have to like yell and holler simple things and it makes me focus on that tidbit so much, that it sort of takes a bit of the fun out for me in a conversation.

The second thing is just it being a more "social" environment, like for building things like social proof, and comfort. Since I mostly practiced daygame and approaching lone girls, in a club/bar environment, there was RARELY a girl by herself and that threw me off. I still approached these sets, but I got blown out quick since I obviously was not comfortable with this type of set at night. I'd just come up with things like

"Oh hey! That's awesome, high five"
*Girl gives happy high five*
"Ahh what was that?! Noo do it again"
*Girl does it again but more awkwardly"
"We have to go to the bathroom we'll be back" *2 set scurries away, there are no bathrooms close around*

I did the second high five literally because I said in my head "I have no idea how to continue this conversation" and just did the first thing that popped into my head, which was what I was already doing. It came off pretty bad, but I still continued approaching sets regardless for practice and I figured out my problem is definitely how I'm really not comfortable in a club environment, appraoching a "group" in nightgame, and the lingering anxiety I have in the back of my head of "Ohh man i don't know what to say!" I mean...I KNOW it's something I shouldn't worry about, but in practice when I'm out...I still do. I feel like if I developed a better "game plan" when going to a place such as this I'd become much more comfortable in these places. I'm just a little lost on how to really form a game plan for what to do in a place such as this.

The last detail that throws me off to these places, is I'm going by myself. I don't have a real set "wing" to compare myself to when it comes to how my sets go and what I SHOULD be doing more. There were some sets at the last club I went to where the girls were giving me questions on

"Where are your friends?"
"Are you with anyone?"
"Who'd you come here with?"

and going by myself, I felt like it was a tad low value for me to say "I'm here by myself". It kind of builds on the anxiety of going and approaching girls in these types of places since I feel like "going to a social club by your lonesome" comes off as creepy to some girls, whereas compared to having a group or a friend it comes off like "yeah I'm here to have a good time".


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 21, 2014 11:20 am 
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Hmmm interesting,I find it quite easier to move through the clubs than stepping to females during the day.


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PostPosted: Sun Sep 21, 2014 12:29 pm 
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I read with great focus your bold lines, but I skimmed through the rest.

Here is what I have to offer in advice...is...GET OVER IT

Now that being the simple case, this is how to get over it with a different view...think of the club as A NEW ADVENTURE...a place to get away from all your stress, you're right you are just there to have fun even alone.
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"Where are your friends?"
"Are you with anyone?"
As soon as I read those quotes I knew what to say. I left the last one out because it's stupid and I'll get to it as well.

First off those quotes I quoted if a girl asks you either of those be witty and sarcastic and tell them..."Friends? None here yet...are you offering?"

Also if someone asks the latter about being with anyone...tell them "I am now" and smile with eye contact. This is the thing you don't get caught up with numbers, social anxiety...you want more females to be around you, this is the problem everyone looking for isolation in the female department. Good thing about extra women is you can play them off each other like building blocks on top of each other.

It doesn't matter if you're alone and there's a whole empire of women. You shouldn't be intimidated...should feel BLESSED...honestly. Just start up conversations, I think you expect going in there and pulling numbers, don't expect anything so when you profit from it you'll appreciate it because it'll be a surprise to you...and then when you get rejected it wont matter because you wont feel rejected since there was nothing to reject.

PUA is all a MIND GAME....and GAMING IS CONFIDENCE....you believe something long enough it becomes true. Inner Game is something you're lacking as I can tell...I want to help you and that's why I decided to take this situation then break it down for you.

Bars/Clubs are the same as Restaurants in a way...same as any other place, it may look different, have more social avenues...but it's the same except for being a slightly better hunting ground. With females you want to show genuine interest in your conversation, you want to study them beforehand and look at what they are wearing, their hair, jewelry, purse, bags, eyes...shoes even....you also want look at their drink if you can figure it out, look at all the people they've talked to and are talking to. It's like a checklist that way it gives you a basis for conversation.

I have walked up to a female surrounded by her friends...all stunning females I might add and went directly to her, told her my name and shook her hand as I then told her "you're very, very beautiful..I just wanted you to know that" and all her friends were impressed. She giggled as did some others, she even said "Wow, thanks"...I left right after that and she hunted me down. We then kissed, and way more.

I tell you this not to brag, ok maybe a little haha But I tell you this mainly for the reason of CONFIDENCE...you don't care what others think of you. You only care about your opinion, because your opinion to you is fact. You want to have a conversation about nothing, you want to have a conversation about things that matter, maybe not to you, but to her. It's normal to meet new people, it's normal to make new friends....female friends...friend-zoned is not the end of the world even though some might have you believe this to be true. It's a whole new path with so many avenues to take.

Be the confident, cool, but calm mysterious man that is sure of himself and is careful with his words. Don't reveal everything about yourself right off the bat or even down the line...keep secrets of yourself and reveal small amounts through conversation. It keeps the mysterious side of you relevant and they'll want you to grab THEIR number because they'll miss out on your secrets.

Anyway you can easily turn a whole room of women into your playground. Throw off your intended target or look for new targets within the group or maybe make it a COMBO TARGET...where all of the group is your target...attraction has many forms, appearance is only one of them, let none tell you otherwise..but that's a whole other topic even though it helps in this because what you don't know about them could be really attractive and hot until you make the conversation.

Just say if you find someone looking alright or decent, but with one major attractive feature that you love, say you liked big tits and big asses, but she only had ONE OF THOSE FEATURES....and this goes for all different attractions of yours or what anyone else might have, then why not go for it and see what else she has? It broadens your horizons for women drastically, trust me.

You make conversation, then you can learn more and more about them, you can slide them in the friend category or do with them what you wish. That's what women do to men. It's what I do to women.

And about the loud music, think nothing of it...you can just get closer to your targets, hell I even use whispering techniques sometimes and that makes the other females wonder what you are talking about then you can always say oh it's a secret and you both can laugh together like back in elementary school haha

I hope this helped immensely...if you ever need further advice on this or anything at all...give me a PM and do not hesitate. I am very knowledgeable and I can and WILL help you with whatever situation you throw my way. Good luck!


NOTE : I DO A GREAT PORTION OF MY SARGING ALONE DUE TO THE FACT MY FRIENDS ARE SOMETIMES BUSY OR I'LL CATCH SOME FEMALE AT A STORE OR RESTAURANT WHEN I'M ALONE AND WHAT TO DO? WHAT TO DO? SO YES I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT.

ALSO ANYONE AND I MEAN ANYONE WHO NEEDS HELP CAN PM ME WITH YOUR CLEAR INFORMATIVE SITUATION AND I WILL BE GLAD TO HELP IF OTHERS FIND THIS ADVICE USEFUL


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Just as the title says, I feel like with my practice in daygaming I can approach sets during the day without much difficulty or anxiety, but when it comes to nightgame and clubs...for some reason I honestly just "freeze up".

I'm definitely a very analytical introvert, and growing up as a "keep-to-myself" introvert, I find it extremely difficult for me to approach in a club and bar setting. First off, the bars and clubs I'm usually at have extremely loud music, and that throws off how I'd usually do a conversation. I feel like I have to like yell and holler simple things and it makes me focus on that tidbit so much, that it sort of takes a bit of the fun out for me in a conversation.

The second thing is just it being a more "social" environment, like for building things like social proof, and comfort. Since I mostly practiced daygame and approaching lone girls, in a club/bar environment, there was RARELY a girl by herself and that threw me off. I still approached these sets, but I got blown out quick since I obviously was not comfortable with this type of set at night. I'd just come up with things like

"Oh hey! That's awesome, high five"
*Girl gives happy high five*
"Ahh what was that?! Noo do it again"
*Girl does it again but more awkwardly"
"We have to go to the bathroom we'll be back" *2 set scurries away, there are no bathrooms close around*

I did the second high five literally because I said in my head "I have no idea how to continue this conversation" and just did the first thing that popped into my head, which was what I was already doing. It came off pretty bad, but I still continued approaching sets regardless for practice and I figured out my problem is definitely how I'm really not comfortable in a club environment, appraoching a "group" in nightgame, and the lingering anxiety I have in the back of my head of "Ohh man i don't know what to say!" I mean...I KNOW it's something I shouldn't worry about, but in practice when I'm out...I still do. I feel like if I developed a better "game plan" when going to a place such as this I'd become much more comfortable in these places. I'm just a little lost on how to really form a game plan for what to do in a place such as this.

The last detail that throws me off to these places, is I'm going by myself. I don't have a real set "wing" to compare myself to when it comes to how my sets go and what I SHOULD be doing more. There were some sets at the last club I went to where the girls were giving me questions on

"Where are your friends?"
"Are you with anyone?"
"Who'd you come here with?"

and going by myself, I felt like it was a tad low value for me to say "I'm here by myself". It kind of builds on the anxiety of going and approaching girls in these types of places since I feel like "going to a social club by your lonesome" comes off as creepy to some girls, whereas compared to having a group or a friend it comes off like "yeah I'm here to have a good time".
Hey man!

I know exactly where you're coming from because I've already gone through all
that shit myself. Your main problem is that you're stuck in the situation where
you're constantly forcing yourself into doing something that you don't truly love
and enjoy. If you did truly love it and enjoy it, you'd do it as effortlessly as 1-2-3
and you'd also not feel any kind of pressure or anxiety around it.

First things first. There're two important steps that you should take in order
to start getting your life back to the right path of reaching your true happiness
and your inner peace around meeting women:

1. You need to immediately stop doing everything that makes you feel under pressure or feel
forced into doing it, because chances are that what you've been busy with so far in your life
are not the things that you really and truly love and enjoy.

2. You need to invest some time and effort in pinpointing your true passions in life, because
without living your true passions you will definitely stay being extremely unhappy and anxious.

As for identifying your true passions, I'd warmly recommend that you read the bestselling book
"The Passion Test: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Life Purpose" (by Chris
and Janet Attwood) that hugely enlightened me to the experience of my own breakthrough on
the same matter.

When it comes to knowing what you need to change and why you need to change it in order to
stop being stuck in your anxiety and constantly feeling under pressure with regards to both
improving your relationships with women and reaching your overall true happiness in your every
day life, I'm now going to try to inspire you to start thinking in the right direction of getting
there as soon as possible.

A good way for me to inspire you to start thinking in the right direction is to share with you
one of my favorite Bruce Lee's quotes that says:

"We do not become, we simply are."

Chances are that what initially pushed you into that frustrating anxiety around meeting
random women in clubs, are most likely the following two things:

a) trying very hard to become somebody who you are not while desperately trying to
adopt and live by the model of behavior that doesn't really suit your true personality, and

b) getting seduced into believing that picking up an endless number of women just to have
sex with them is really something that you could call part of your true happiness or passion,
while in fact, this very activity is nothing but part of a pure obsession that you don't truly
enjoy and that in the first place you've subconsciously got forced to believe that you should
enjoy no matter what, because somebody taught you that this is the way of how you become
that ideal alpha man.

What I'm trying to point out to you here is that like many other guys including myself who ended up
in the pickup arts community mainly because our self esteem got badly hurt sometime during our early
age and all we're now trying to do is just lift it up or fix it through gaining a kind of sexual gratification
based on sleeping with as many women as possible in our lifetime, you seem to be stuck in exactly
the same kind of situation.

Before I go on telling you a little bit of my story, let me ask you a simple question.

Have you ever asked yourself that important "Do I really enjoy it?" question
when trying to attract and pick up women?

Asking myself this question was a huge light bulb moment in my life, because it helped me realize
that everything I was doing in the area of attracting and picking up women for years was purely
the result of just acting under the pressure - the unnecessary pressure of constantly forcing myself
into doing what I didn't really love and enjoy at all.

What made me keep forcing myself to boldly approach random women just to pick them up as my
sexual objects was both my initial belief that doing it was part of my true passion and also my
adopted pickup arts conditioning that was constantly pushing me into my sexual advances with
random women just for the sake of not feeling guilty of missing out on any pickup opportunities
when I get back home later.

Guess what. I was wrong when trying to identify my true passion.

All my sexual advances that I was constantly forcing myself into were a pure obsession that
I now like to call my false passion.

My pickup and sex obsession started mainly as the outcome of dating related peer pressure
from my childhood.

I got stuck in this obsession for two reasons:

a) I initially didn't fit in the social circles of my peers because I didn't really like most of
their behaviors, and

b) my inner resistance toward the peer pressure grew so much that I gradually got myself
into thinking of creating my own international playboy lifestyle surrounded by the most
beautiful women that I'd have lots of fun and sex with for the rest of my life.

As a result, my pickup and sex obsession got me stuck in a long-term sexual addiction with
the symptoms of the two most common men's mental disorders known as borderline personality
disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

Now here's an important thing that I'd really like you to understand.

The situation where you feel anxious and reserved about approaching random women is actually
not a bad thing. Let me explain.

Your approach anxiety is like your guardian angel protecting you from getting stuck in the kind
of obsession I told you about a minute ago. It's there to protect you from getting in the bad habit
of constantly feeling under pressure of having to necessarily approach and pick up random women
wherever you go. It's also there to protect you from being fed up with and feeling guilty of missing
out on the opportunities to approach and pick up women.

Here're two reasons why your approach anxiety is your best friend and why you should not try
to beat it or overcome it in any way:

1) Again, your approach anxiety is there to save you from getting trapped in the situation that
you wouldn't naturally feel comfortable with and wouldn't really enjoy it in a long run. By the way,
I'm saying "in a long run" because most of us when we get stuck in chasing an obsession,
we're seduced to believe that what we're doing is really something that we fully love and enjoy
doing.

2) Trying to beat your approach anxiety by getting in the habit of boldly approaching
as many random women in a day as possible is not only a form of validation seeking but
also something that will push you into an endless out-of-control, self destructive and
compulsive sexual behaviors that are characteristic of the behaviors of guys who suffer
from borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

By the way, I'm neither a psychiatrist nor a psychologist but just a guy like you who got
involved in the pickup community just to learn the game while never thinking of any mental
health dangers as the result of doing it.

Today I'm proud to say that I have a solid knowledge about the two most common men's
mental heath disorders that come purely as the outcome of practising the pua game: borderline
personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

As you can guess, I got into the trouble of learning about these mental disorders because my
severe approach anxiety (that I'd never ever experienced before) was getting worse and worse
and making me feel so distressed even at the times I was about to just take a short trip to my
local supermarket to buy something that I really felt I was not only losing my mental health but
also losing my whole self at such a fast speed that was out of my control.

In short, my one year long mental health educational journey got me to learn the 3 main
causes of all my pains and struggles linked with being involved in the game:

a) the first thing that got me in the habit of constantly pushing myself to boldly approach random
women in different social situations was my approach anxiety, because my approach anxiety
subconsciously became my main motivational trigger that was making me boldly approach
random women especially in high-risk social situations.

The more approach anxiety I felt, the more encouraged and motivated I was to approach a
random woman no matter what kind of situation she was in and who she was potentially with
at the time.

b) the second thing that got me in the same unhealthy habit of constantly forcing myself to
boldly approach any random woman that I was sexually attracted to was an abnormal sense
of entitlement. I later realized that I'd absorbed this sense of entitlement and got it to become
part of my personality through the process of learning the game since most pua trainers often
teach guys to feel entitled to freely approach any woman they like.

As the result of my mental health research, I learned that one of the main behavioral traits
of the guys who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder is exactly the same kind of
unhealthy sense of entitlement when boldly approaching random women anywhere they go.

c) the self-destructive habit of constantly forcing myself to boldly approach random women
in dangerous, high-risk situations is one of the main behavioral traits of sociopaths and the
guys who suffer from borderline personality disorder.

In short, the most common symptom of the men suffering from borderline personality disorder
is boldly engaging in dangerous life situations. In terms of dating and picking up women, this
refers to any kind of out-of-control, compulsive sexual behavior where a man often stupidly
exposes himself to an unnecessary risk or danger of getting harmed in one way or another,
because he starts to feel guilty if he doesn't take the challenge of getting himself involved
in such situation.

By the way, what I've just shared with you are also the symptoms of sexual addiction.

So, this is exactly how my initial pickup and sex obsession turned into a long-term sexual
addiction with the symptoms of borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

And, here's the conclusion I got to after I finally got myself out of this whole trouble.

I got stuck in the vicious circle of anxiety-driven, out-of-control, compulsive sexual behaviors
around meeting women for years purely because of my childhood's hurt self-esteem that I
desperately wanted to lift up by sleeping with as many women in my entire lifetime as possible
just to be able to defiantly show off to my peers how sexually powerful and successful with
women I was.


The bottom line is this: You're very likely to end up both being constantly unhappy with yourself
and getting addicted to doing various unnecessary things that you don't really love and enjoy when
you don't follow and live your true passions which are the things that you actually love and enjoy.
Once you start living closely aligned with your true passions, you'll end up waking up every morning
super excited and fulfilled while having both that important clarity of what your next steps are and
a clear vision of your dream success. As a result, your desired inner peace will naturally fall into
place.

Hope you find this post enlightening and helpful.

Bruno

_________________
FREE Report: "From False Passion For Picking Up Women Through Sexual Addiction To Redemption"


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Just as the title says, I feel like with my practice in daygaming I can approach sets during the day without much difficulty or anxiety, but when it comes to nightgame and clubs...for some reason I honestly just "freeze up".

I'm definitely a very analytical introvert, and growing up as a "keep-to-myself" introvert, I find it extremely difficult for me to approach in a club and bar setting. First off, the bars and clubs I'm usually at have extremely loud music, and that throws off how I'd usually do a conversation. I feel like I have to like yell and holler simple things and it makes me focus on that tidbit so much, that it sort of takes a bit of the fun out for me in a conversation.

The second thing is just it being a more "social" environment, like for building things like social proof, and comfort. Since I mostly practiced daygame and approaching lone girls, in a club/bar environment, there was RARELY a girl by herself and that threw me off. I still approached these sets, but I got blown out quick since I obviously was not comfortable with this type of set at night. I'd just come up with things like

"Oh hey! That's awesome, high five"
*Girl gives happy high five*
"Ahh what was that?! Noo do it again"
*Girl does it again but more awkwardly"
"We have to go to the bathroom we'll be back" *2 set scurries away, there are no bathrooms close around*

I did the second high five literally because I said in my head "I have no idea how to continue this conversation" and just did the first thing that popped into my head, which was what I was already doing. It came off pretty bad, but I still continued approaching sets regardless for practice and I figured out my problem is definitely how I'm really not comfortable in a club environment, appraoching a "group" in nightgame, and the lingering anxiety I have in the back of my head of "Ohh man i don't know what to say!" I mean...I KNOW it's something I shouldn't worry about, but in practice when I'm out...I still do. I feel like if I developed a better "game plan" when going to a place such as this I'd become much more comfortable in these places. I'm just a little lost on how to really form a game plan for what to do in a place such as this.

The last detail that throws me off to these places, is I'm going by myself. I don't have a real set "wing" to compare myself to when it comes to how my sets go and what I SHOULD be doing more. There were some sets at the last club I went to where the girls were giving me questions on

"Where are your friends?"
"Are you with anyone?"
"Who'd you come here with?"

and going by myself, I felt like it was a tad low value for me to say "I'm here by myself". It kind of builds on the anxiety of going and approaching girls in these types of places since I feel like "going to a social club by your lonesome" comes off as creepy to some girls, whereas compared to having a group or a friend it comes off like "yeah I'm here to have a good time".
Hey man!

I know exactly where you're coming from because I've already gone through all
that shit myself. Your main problem is that you're stuck in the situation where
you're constantly forcing yourself into doing something that you don't truly love
and enjoy. If you did truly love it and enjoy it, you'd do it as effortlessly as 1-2-3
and you'd also not feel any kind of pressure or anxiety around it.

First things first. There're two important steps that you should take in order
to start getting your life back to the right path of reaching your true happiness
and your inner peace around meeting women:

1. You need to immediately stop doing everything that makes you feel under pressure or feel
forced into doing it, because chances are that what you've been busy with so far in your life
are not the things that you really and truly love and enjoy.

2. You need to invest some time and effort in pinpointing your true passions in life, because
without living your true passions you will definitely stay being extremely unhappy and anxious.

As for identifying your true passions, I'd warmly recommend that you read the bestselling book
"The Passion Test: The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Life Purpose" (by Chris
and Janet Attwood) that hugely enlightened me to the experience of my own breakthrough on
the same matter.

When it comes to knowing what you need to change and why you need to change it in order to
stop being stuck in your anxiety and constantly feeling under pressure with regards to both
improving your relationships with women and reaching your overall true happiness in your every
day life, I'm now going to try to inspire you to start thinking in the right direction of getting
there as soon as possible.

A good way for me to inspire you to start thinking in the right direction is to share with you
one of my favorite Bruce Lee's quotes that says:

"We do not become, we simply are."

Chances are that what initially pushed you into that frustrating anxiety around meeting
random women in clubs, are most likely the following two things:

a) trying very hard to become somebody who you are not while desperately trying to
adopt and live by the model of behavior that doesn't really suit your true personality, and

b) getting seduced into believing that picking up an endless number of women just to have
sex with them is really something that you could call part of your true happiness or passion,
while in fact, this very activity is nothing but part of a pure obsession that you don't truly
enjoy and that in the first place you've subconsciously got forced to believe that you should
enjoy no matter what, because somebody taught you that this is the way of how you become
that ideal alpha man.

What I'm trying to point out to you here is that like many other guys including myself who ended up
in the pickup arts community mainly because our self esteem got badly hurt sometime during our early
age and all we're now trying to do is just lift it up or fix it through gaining a kind of sexual gratification
based on sleeping with as many women as possible in our lifetime, you seem to be stuck in exactly
the same kind of situation.

Before I go on telling you a little bit of my story, let me ask you a simple question.

Have you ever asked yourself that important "Do I really enjoy it?" question
when trying to attract and pick up women?

Asking myself this question was a huge light bulb moment in my life, because it helped me realize
that everything I was doing in the area of attracting and picking up women for years was purely
the result of just acting under the pressure - the unnecessary pressure of constantly forcing myself
into doing what I didn't really love and enjoy at all.

What made me keep forcing myself to boldly approach random women just to pick them up as my
sexual objects was both my initial belief that doing it was part of my true passion and also my
adopted pickup arts conditioning that was constantly pushing me into my sexual advances with
random women just for the sake of not feeling guilty of missing out on any pickup opportunities
when I get back home later.

Guess what. I was wrong when trying to identify my true passion.

All my sexual advances that I was constantly forcing myself into were a pure obsession that
I now like to call my false passion.

My pickup and sex obsession started mainly as the outcome of dating related peer pressure
from my childhood.

I got stuck in this obsession for two reasons:

a) I initially didn't fit in the social circles of my peers because I didn't really like most of
their behaviors, and

b) my inner resistance toward the peer pressure grew so much that I gradually got myself
into thinking of creating my own international playboy lifestyle surrounded by the most
beautiful women that I'd have lots of fun and sex with for the rest of my life.

As a result, my pickup and sex obsession got me stuck in a long-term sexual addiction with
the symptoms of the two most common men's mental disorders known as borderline personality
disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

Now here's an important thing that I'd really like you to understand.

The situation where you feel anxious and reserved about approaching random women is actually
not a bad thing. Let me explain.

Your approach anxiety is like your guardian angel protecting you from getting stuck in the kind
of obsession I told you about a minute ago. It's there to protect you from getting in the bad habit
of constantly feeling under pressure of having to necessarily approach and pick up random women
wherever you go. It's also there to protect you from being fed up with and feeling guilty of missing
out on the opportunities to approach and pick up women.

Here're two reasons why your approach anxiety is your best friend and why you should not try
to beat it or overcome it in any way:

1) Again, your approach anxiety is there to save you from getting trapped in the situation that
you wouldn't naturally feel comfortable with and wouldn't really enjoy it in a long run. By the way,
I'm saying "in a long run" because most of us when we get stuck in chasing an obsession,
we're seduced to believe that what we're doing is really something that we fully love and enjoy
doing.

2) Trying to beat your approach anxiety by getting in the habit of boldly approaching
as many random women in a day as possible is not only a form of validation seeking but
also something that will push you into an endless out-of-control, self destructive and
compulsive sexual behaviors that are characteristic of the behaviors of guys who suffer
from borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

By the way, I'm neither a psychiatrist nor a psychologist but just a guy like you who got
involved in the pickup community just to learn the game while never thinking of any mental
health dangers as the result of doing it.

Today I'm proud to say that I have a solid knowledge about the two most common men's
mental heath disorders that come purely as the outcome of practising the pua game: borderline
personality disorder and narcissistic personality disorder.

As you can guess, I got into the trouble of learning about these mental disorders because my
severe approach anxiety (that I'd never ever experienced before) was getting worse and worse
and making me feel so distressed even at the times I was about to just take a short trip to my
local supermarket to buy something that I really felt I was not only losing my mental health but
also losing my whole self at such a fast speed that was out of my control.

In short, my one year long mental health educational journey got me to learn the 3 main
causes of all my pains and struggles linked with being involved in the game:

a) the first thing that got me in the habit of constantly pushing myself to boldly approach random
women in different social situations was my approach anxiety, because my approach anxiety
subconsciously became my main motivational trigger that was making me boldly approach
random women especially in high-risk social situations.

The more approach anxiety I felt, the more encouraged and motivated I was to approach a
random woman no matter what kind of situation she was in and who she was potentially with
at the time.

b) the second thing that got me in the same unhealthy habit of constantly forcing myself to
boldly approach any random woman that I was sexually attracted to was an abnormal sense
of entitlement. I later realized that I'd absorbed this sense of entitlement and got it to become
part of my personality through the process of learning the game since most pua trainers often
teach guys to feel entitled to freely approach any woman they like.

As the result of my mental health research, I learned that one of the main behavioral traits
of the guys who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder is exactly the same kind of
unhealthy sense of entitlement when boldly approaching random women anywhere they go.

c) the self-destructive habit of constantly forcing myself to boldly approach random women
in dangerous, high-risk situations is one of the main behavioral traits of sociopaths and the
guys who suffer from borderline personality disorder.

In short, the most common symptom of the men suffering from borderline personality disorder
is boldly engaging in dangerous life situations. In terms of dating and picking up women, this
refers to any kind of out-of-control, compulsive sexual behavior where a man often stupidly
exposes himself to an unnecessary risk or danger of getting harmed in one way or another,
because he starts to feel guilty if he doesn't take the challenge of getting himself involved
in such situation.

By the way, what I've just shared with you are also the symptoms of sexual addiction.

So, this is exactly how my initial pickup and sex obsession turned into a long-term sexual
addiction with the symptoms of borderline and narcissistic personality disorders.

And, here's the conclusion I got to after I finally got myself out of this whole trouble.

I got stuck in the vicious circle of anxiety-driven, out-of-control, compulsive sexual behaviors
around meeting women for years purely because of my childhood's hurt self-esteem that I
desperately wanted to lift up by sleeping with as many women in my entire lifetime as possible
just to be able to defiantly show off to my peers how sexually powerful and successful with
women I was.


The bottom line is this: You're very likely to end up both being constantly unhappy with yourself
and getting addicted to doing various unnecessary things that you don't really love and enjoy when
you don't follow and live your true passions which are the things that you actually love and enjoy.
Once you start living closely aligned with your true passions, you'll end up waking up every morning
super excited and fulfilled while having both that important clarity of what your next steps are and
a clear vision of your dream success. As a result, your desired inner peace will naturally fall into
place.

Hope you find this post enlightening and helpful.

Bruno
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