I was studying Mystery Method today, and I hit a jackpot in my previous thinking on communicating attraction towards a target. As males, we like/and are used to applying logic to every situation.
Ex. "Why did you hit the wall and throw that book across the room?"
Male: would likely answer, "because the Yankees won, etc"
Female: answer would be more like "because I am upset/angry/etc"
Females tend to focus on the emotional response, without evening searching for a logical reason as to why they acted in a certain way. As males, we are used to explaining our actions in a logical way..aka "i like you because you are pretty and fun to be around."
A woman says "i like you because you make me feel happy"
As Mystery suggests, during A3 or even C1, make ALL of your comments about the two of you or her very vague and emotionally anchored. In a sense, give her the same type of compliment a woman gives you...aka "I am attracted to you, but I just don't know why" "I just feel a real connection to you, and I have no idea why"
These comments don't feel natural to us, not even for me typing them out right now. But these are the comments that a woman soaks up. It gives them something to really think on. In the phrase "I like you because you are smart, funny, and successful" the key phrase is "I like you"...not the reasons why. Unless the girl has portrayed or indicated that she WANTS a guy to like her because she is "smart, funny, and successful", you are not gaining any ground by giving her logic behind your interest. Leave it vague for her, so she can think about what qualities make you are interested in her. The important thing is that you let her know you are interested [IOI], but don't miss an opportunity to also create more intrigue and rapport.
DON'T LOGIC A GIRL TO DEATH ABOUT ANYTHING! ALWAYS TRY TO KEEP THINGS ON THE VAGUE OR MYSTERIOUS...GIVE HER A PUZZLE!!!
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