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You're really an impressive and interesting person. I have a lot of ego and insecurities I struggle with which affects my day to day relationships. Reading your posts have been very helpful. I know you say to not make excuses however it feels difficult to be the easy going laid person Id like to be when I have to stress about the work I must accomplish daily. Even when I'm not busy I constantly focus and stress on the future activities I have to accomplish less I fall behind.
I'm not asking for personal help but I would love to read more of your posts. Please keep updating. Ive been trying to work on my approach toward women outside the bar and I make decent small talk but I would love to shed all and any guilt, shyness, shame, and any insecurity holding me back from being the charming alpha I know I can be and have them fall in love with me on the spot (which I know I can do because I consistently come up with the coolest shit to say not 1 minute after I leave and kick myself about it later).
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Thank You for the compliments ShitonAuto. I appreciate that.
I certainly understand your point about stress at work, it is very difficult to separate the two. I have a very high-stress job myself, I am in charge of over 30 employees and 11k in labor every week, not to mention the transactions I'm responsible (in charge of point of sale) add up to 650k plus weekly and over 20k transactions every week. Perhaps your stress is quite a bit higher than that, but what I'm really saying is I have to separate the stress as well, it is very difficult.
Two things when it comes to stress I think you can do is you can meditate I recommend doing it for at least 10 minutes every day and working out.
Working out will exude a lot of physical energy your body needs to get done and ups some "happy chemicals", sometimes it feels like you don't have a lot of time but if you work out for even 20 minutes and get a good sweat going you can do the trick.
Meditation is great because it teaches you mental and emotional awareness... You learn to relax and clear your mind something I've found is very useful when you stress a lot. It teaches you to live in the present rather than worry about the future.
I'd say one of your key problems is just your comfort with the situation.. Eventually it will be natural to flow in and out of conversation, just like anything else getting good at interaction requires practice. Keep it up and you'll get to a point where it is natural.
If you have a lot of shame and guilt over your reasons for talking to her (sex) I certainly understand that, I use to feel that way (raised heavily Catholic) and then I realized it is natural to want sex. Here is an article I wrote on Sexual Beliefs there is some stuff in there about guilt and shame
http://scienceofnaturalgame.com/2012/05 ... l-outlook/ I haven't read it in a while but that was one of the reasons for writing it.
Work on your self-confidence some find a good book or program and you can be very very comfortable going in and out of conversation. If you'd like I can recommend a book or two for you, just remember in order to get self-confidence you have to focus on it and perform the tasks. (I'm actually about done with my True Core Self-Confidence and Happiness E-mail boot camp, just need to shoot some more video for it, should be ready in the next week)
I do need to start adding more information to this it has been a long time, problem is I don't remember what is in the thread so I need to read it again so I remember what is in the thread and not repeat myself. Hopefully life will slow down and I can add some information... I have a lot of people asking for me to put up info so it gets difficult.
Peace and Love,
Vic
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