Hi All
First post and totally new to PUA so take it easy on the newb. Sorry for the long post but this is the beginning of the journey
Background
age 45
1 year out of 5.5 year relationship - 9 mths into new g/f - cute little asian girl I met on the net
g/f is good but doesn't want another kid. I don't have and want so probably no future.
+ves
Lost 12 kg in the last year - still work to do but not fat or fem looking
Joined some social groups and play regular social sports
Conquered my phobia about dancing and learned some basic Salsa
Look young for my age
Earn good money
Been told I'm good in bed
Have layed upwards of 40 women and had 5 longterm relationships - so I guess mid-level AFC
Articulate and well read
Analytical so I should be able to work with material
-ves
Ex pat with limited - say 6-8 friends here that I see fairly infrequently
Too good a talker need to improve active listening
Works gone thru cutbacks last year with more to come so I'll need to spend time on keeping my gig/packing my parachute - i.e. limited time
No house - in process of looking to buy one - i.e. limited time
Car's old but a good model and tidy looking - probably a neutral point
Longterm Goals
Find a cute 30s woman to marry who wants a kid
Be gently alpha in that relationship
Immediate Goals
Get more female friends - only got 2 single female friends here and they're darned flakey
I think this is 2 main problems - where to meet 35-40 YO single women
- How to be playful and intriguing so they don't fade away - which has
happened to me before
Get into day game - night scene and dance scene seems limited for older guys in my city
Preferred Approach
Natural - any canned material is going to have to be subtle - I don't thing a lot of the 'openers' I've seen are going to work on older women.
Q - which matierial to star with? - focus is building social circle and older guy game
I realise I'm going to have to pick n chose but want to start with the richest veins
I'm in Australia - bit of a cultural difference maybe with US - our women are feisty have to b very
careful with teasing and negs
Because I'm busy audio I can listen to in car is probably best
Q - good first steps to get out there - don't want to be one of those 'home with my PUA material' guys
An overseas friend who's got plenty of game sent me some DVDs with:
John Alexanda's how to become an alpha male - working thru it - seems good basic advice but seems geared to pushing all femaile relationships to sex - don't have that much time/energy
Carlos Xuma - Ultimate Inner Game, Alpha Male conversation, Bad boy formula
Tom Torero - Conversation King
Magic bullets (1st ed)
Alan Pease - body language DVDs
Jamie Smart - Attracting Women From The Inside Out
David X - relentless seminar
Sean McPheat - how to be a master communicator (book)
Neil Strauss - the game (audio), Annihilation method - DVDs, rules of the game (book)
Love Systems - Real Social Dynamics DVD, Social Circle master DVD
(Don't know who) - Social Man - the girlfriend activation system
Richard La Ruina - The Natural How to Effortlessly Attract the Women You Want
Way too much material - so given my situation and goals which should I start with?
As we say downunder - thanx heaps guys for helping me with first steps