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Alot of breaks in your relationship is never good.
But you been with her for a while, thus you should know how to regain her interest?
Giving a "poor" girl gifts is normally not smart as they always have the feeling they should give something back but they simple can't without cutting back even more on their lifestyle. (personal experience on this)
If you want to give a small token of affection try something like the tip of a red rose or so. Cheap but won't make her feel bad.
I wouldn't mention that ex to much, if she seems cool with it-pretents it is cool drop the subject and avoid it as much as possible.
As she has a busy life , working and stuff 'to go out with me in london' => late stuff?
Try weekends ect.. try something closer to her new living spot. Try small things, if you do something like a walk in the parc-go to a pub and talk a bit it isn't to expensive nor fatigue. Asking us if you lose value is something we will never be able to answer. I personally always know if I have value or not with people. It is just the way they act, ....
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Thanks for the reply man
I am not sure how to regain her interest, i thought i could be more challenging perhaps, but i wouldn't know what that entails to be honest, and to be honest she hasn't given me much too challenge.
I agree with the present gift, but it was only a box of fancy soaps i got from france, the negative effect of this would have been smothering, but she organised a whole holiday for me when i went to visit her, so it was a small token.
As for her ex friend and my future SPAM, i was more concerned with her SPAM possibly hitting on me, or using me to get back at my girlfriend, as judging from past experiences its not out of the question with this girl. I agree though that i should drop the subject and not invest too much time in it.
I have thought that, i would be more than happy to go and see her at her new place and do things like that, but wouldn't that undermine my value which i am already worried is slipping, if i make all the effort to see her.
I suppose overall my questions are, how can i be more challenging and display affection while maintaing my "alpha maleness". To be honest looking at this in hindsight, it makes rational sense that i haven't seen her much since she's been back.
How can you maintain high value when you don't see them as much, and you only really have texts to go on.
Even though i have been seeing her for half a year, this is my first relationship, and i am still a bit taken back from past bad experiences i had with one or two girls before that, so i can't help but feel a bit on edge when I'm feeling sensitive. The distorted messages that you are brainwashed with by the media from a young age doesn't help you much either, in life when it comes to relationships.
Peace