Hey everyone. I've been on the PUA forum for a few months now and it has been great. Reading the stories that everyone has posted, has been very interesting to say the least. Well now, I have finally decided to get my ass into gear!
In the past, I had made posts about me and my ex gf. Where our relationship was, how things were going, and just how she was pretty much fucking me over. I've finally decided to get off the oneitis band wagon, and actually start getting back into the game. A big reason why I think me personally as well as some other guys have oneitis, is because they're only getting poontang from one girl! But anyway, the only thing that my relationship left me, was being 70lbs heavier. I had nothing to show but clothes that didn't fit, a big gut, and stretch marks..Those are some of the biggest things that can slash a man's confidence.
Being on both sides of the spectrum, thin and overweight, I can definitely say that how you look is a HUGE part of things. Since being larger, I have gotten little to no attention from females. I've been 230lbs for over two years and it has definitely taken a toll on me. Especially when this is a time to "date and bang everything in sight".
So finally, I have been getting back to the gym & slowly but surely getting back to the way I used to be. I still dress professionally ( have to for my job) straight teeth, and groomed hair, but no lovin' from the ladies.
Now..
The other day, I was browsing around on Facebook. A lot of people that I hadn't seen from High School, were popping up on my "people you may know, or mutual friends". A lot of the HB's were popping up, and needless to say, they were still HB's As I was scrolling through their friends, the 900 plus that most had, it kind of got me thinking, "How do you get a girl like that"? Most still had their default pictures set as what they went for this Halloween: no need to elaborate there.
As I continued to scroll through & browse their friends, most of the dudes on there, were the dudes that seemed like they would attempt to get with that girl, but more than likely failed..Not saying they were losers or ugly..just the protocol D-Bag. It got me thinking..What would or could I do, so I wouldn't fall into that category. A lot of the posts on here, say that just a simple hello works. I thought about it more, and thought that if I was a woman, being approached a lot, that my thoughts would be "he just wants to rail". Obv. That is the goal, or achievement. I guess you could say how do I avoid being placed into that group of D-bags who more than likely failed? Being not so...Direct I guess you could say? Not having too much luck over the past couple of years, has really put a damper on everything. Most attractive girls I see, my first thoughts are assuming that she has already slept with at least ten men. With me being out of the game for awhile now, I felt like I have lost time..or everyone out there is having a good ole' time fucking each other. I currently go to Communinty College, and most of the HB's are at the Universities, so any type of interaction is out of the question: or at least I think. It seems like if you attempt to try and chat with one of those girls over Facebook, you'll be labeled a creep faster than you can blink.
I'm just rambling on now..If you read this whole post, I give you kudos. If you actually give the doc some help here, it'd be appreciated.
-Thanks for your time
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