Jesus H. Christ, people. Dates? Are you fucking insane?
1. You want her trust? Don't be a douche-bag. By the sounds of things, you're being a douche-bag, and that's the fastest, easiest way to getting your balls kicked to your throat.
2. If you are not interested in a relationship, do not offer one. It's mean. You'll break her poor little heart. And if you're not worried about breaking hearts, young man I have a news flash for you: girls talk to one another. It's ALL they do, is talk to one another, and if you fuck around on this girl and break her heart, every girl in the school will know about it in two days. SOI. Statements of Intent. Tell her exactly what you want with her, and do not deviate from that. If all you want is to fuck her brains out and never call her again, then she has a right to know that ahead of time.
3. The take-away, the freeze-out. These are classic fucking moves, guys. Go back and read The Game again. Read The Venusian Arts. Again. Memorize it. Make it yours. If you're already making out with her, you're in the good. You do not need to go on dates. You do not need to offer her a relationship. If you are making out with her, it means she is comfortable enough and trusts you enough that you can make a move for full close at any time. As long as you are in a place that is condusive to intimacy (your bedroom, her bedroom, whatever), you can freeze her out and turn her "No" into a "Please..."
So let's go over Freeze Outs one more time.
Things get hot and heavy. You reach under the shirt and get some under-the-bra action. You move to take off the bra and shirt. She says "No."
YOU STOP. You don't kiss her. You don't touch her. You just get up and get yourself a glass of water. You turn on the television. You do anything that does not involve making out with her. Then you wait. She will come back to you, and she will initiate. Or she will go home. If she goes home, you've lost your chance. Snakes on a plane. Go out the next day and open a new set.
You see, she was feeling good a moment ago, and now she's lost that good feeling. To get it back, she has to work for it. And that means you can push the boundaries just a little further.
You can try for the shirt again. This time, she will let you. If she doesn't, go back to freezing out. Get her to understand that saying "No," is a sure way to lose your attention, and she will stop saying "No." She wants to sleep with you as badly as you want to sleep with her. She just doesn't want to feel like a slut for doing it. So let her put up her defenses, and don't fight against them. Go AROUND them. Then she can tell her friend "One thing led to another" without feeling like a complete ho.
For Christ's sake people, go back to your assigned reading and learn something.
An Angry Monkey
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