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I said:
I like the way that dress looks on you, but it just reminds me of my couch at home.... I think she may have been a 7 or lower that's why she got insulted
A better way to have put that would be something like "That's a nice dress...I think I've got a couch made out of the same material!" then you reach out your hand a bit and then stop and look at her as if you just remembered she was a person and you have to ask her permission first, and make a gesture like "is it ok if i feel your dress?" or say "do you mind?" then rub the material between your fingers and nod to yourself, then say "yep...that's the stuff" or "nope...my couch is a little softer" or something depending on how much you need to neg her to bring her self esteem to the right level.