I am in a very long relationship and soon getting married. I wouldn`t call myself PUA anymore. I was always natural w females and had plenty of success before finding "the One". She was tough cookie. Although I was sure she is totally interested (her friends told me that although it was so obvious anyway) she was very hard to get because she was affarid of my reputation, that is, that I will hurt her. Use and leave. I was forced to try to convince her that I was like that only cause I couldn`t find the "right one". Finally we ended up together and it lasts for almost 8yrs. During that long period, I left the game but the game didn`t left me
. Saying that, I don`t want to say that I continued to game HB`s like I did before. I changed my habbits, I didn`t run out every day, hitting clubs, gaming every HB that moves near me. Instead, I spend most of the time with her, not because SHE wanted it but because I wanted it. All of that was waaay before Neil wrote a book and I even became aware of a PU society. After I read the book, I became interested in all this stuff, mostly because I wanted to understand why I had lot of succes and what I did wrong when I failed.
How does former suuccesfull PUA behaves in LTR? Well, as i said, I don`t go out in the evening much with buddies like I did before. We rather spend time going out in pairs, with girls (or wifes). Also, I spend lot of time working, training and doing stuf that makes me happy like driving bike or playing soccer. Anyway, like I said I don`t run from a game. Now it consists more from a day game where I like to game HB`s whit which I come across in everday life (on work, on the street, in the gym, in the shopping malls, on the beach etc.). I also have a great job where I am meeting plenty of HB`s and I game them casually, not trying to much. Amazing thing is that success comes much more naturaly and easy then when you try hard. Also, I game them to the level where I am sure that she is baked and cooked and (almost always) I stop there. I feed my PUA ego and thst (almost always) satisfy me. The problem occurs when I drink alcohol (veeery rarely) cause I have much trouble to control myself to not do anything after I reach that level.
How do you stay 8 yrs in a relatshionship? Of course you cannot fake your personality so long. Thats why I hate canned routines and stuff. You can seduce somebody with your DHV stories about dating strippers and protecting your little friend from a 7 feet buly, but sooner or later, if you are a fake, thst will come out and you will loose all the credibility. If you are not born like that (I fortunately am), you have to work hard to BECAME a person that you thinks will be interesting to females. Work on your body, be a good student, find a great job, find some crazy hobbies, create a big social network etc. Being such a person, you will find such a girlfriend and when 2 people both have great, fullfield lifes, they will never become bored with each other. There will always be a positiv tension between both of them.
My "chosen one" doesn`t know about PUA society but she knows me very well, in other words, she knows that I am, what society would call "natural born player". I don`t even hide from her that I will always be nice to all the people around me, including other HB`s and that is somenthing she accepted as something she cannot change. I a way, that is good because she knows she never can`t take me for granted and that works opposite aswell. Thats my story.
Anyway, I hope I answered on some of your Q`s!
Marco
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