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I have a wonderful girl and she is respecting me a lot, and i know that she would never cheat on me, she really indeed is a good girl!
The problem is that the other day we were looking at pictures on her computer, and then suddenly there were pictures of her ex's and her kissing them, old pictures of couse, and first she is like "oh you saw that, didn't you?"
And said yes, then she opens them op, and start talking about that she thinks they look good so she didn't want to delete them, and i really got upset at this point, she is normally pretty bad with words, and rambles and often say the wrong things, not on purpose though. She meant that she liked the way she looked herself and that was why she liked the pictures. i got really mad at her, and she got really sad. And she have apologized a lot, and deleted the pictures almost instantly... afterwards she talked to some girlfriends, and they were sort of like "why did you delete the pictures?", "wow, its just pictures, but i guess boys don't get that". And i know that she had no feelings what so ever, connected to the pictures, but i got really upset..
ever since this happende (3 days ago) i have been VERY insecure about my self, and really jealous, aways expecting the worse to happen... like every time i text with her and feel she doesn't send me sweet enough text's i feel like something is wrong and she wants to breake up... and yesterday she went out, she wanted me to join her, but i didn't feel like it. So she went out with her best friend(a girl) and some other girls, and her best friend told me she would look out for her, and i know she did, even if she didn't i know that my girl would never cheat on me..
but then when she got home i called her, and she seemed a little upset.. so know i am worried that she may have kissed another dude..
any advice?...
You fell for her sh*t test and failed. What you should have done was "DO NOTHING". When she said, you saw that didn't you? You should have said, yeah I saw a looser! After all, her ex is a looser because that's why he got dumped or the dumper who couldn't appreciate this fine lady! Then after, you keep your mouth shut. If she insists in showing you more of her ex, kindly tell her you need to go to the washroom. Stay there awhile. Flush the toilet and come out. If she insist in still showing you her exes, tell her "I just got an upset stomach seeing all those looser photos!". Case closed.