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PostPosted: Mon Aug 14, 2017 10:47 am 
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Most common problem among aspiring men who want to get good with women is approach anxiety.

If asked what does it mean, then a common reply would be, that they have fear to go and approach a random woman.

Well not many has probed deeper into the real fear.

The real fear is not act of approaching, but what happens after the act of approach.

In fact most of the people who believe that they can’t approach, actually can approach easily without any anxiety.

I will prove it to you.

If I give lets say 1000 dollar bill to a man and tell him that if he approaches a pretty looking random woman irrespective of the outcome, then 1000 dollar will belong to him, what do you think will he approach the woman?

Most likely yes.

Why this man is easily able to approach?

Because ego has been validated with a positive outcome and the positive outcome being the incentive of 1000 dollars. How the woman react is not a deciding factor of an outcome, hence question of embarrassment does not even arise.

In the above case ego will only get hurt on not earning the 1000 dollar and it has nothing to do with the woman.

That is why, this idea of giving a wingman 100 dollars and then tearing it, if the man does not approach, does not work.

The man will approach out the fear of losing the money, in which case again ego will be validated just by the act of approaching. How the woman responds won’t matter at all.

This applies to a Pick up artist coach also. He takes out few students who have rarely approach a random woman. He personally approaches few random women with different outcomes. Now for the student it is a big deal what a pick up artist coach is doing and so he applauds the coach.
But the coach is being incentivised and so the positive outcome which his ego is looking for is just the act of approaching.

But for the student it is scary, you know why?

For students they are risking embarrassment that will be potentially caused to ego. And this potential embarrassment will depend on the outcome of how the woman respond.

As Johnny Soporno puts it “The only task your ego has is to avoid failure and stop you doing things that can cause embarrassment”.

The only way out of this, is to understand internally that approaching women with risking embarrassment is good in the long run and the only way to learn..


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 22, 2017 9:42 pm 
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Solid advice. Infact the more you approach the more easier it becomes. However, I fully believe it's like a muscle you got to continuously work it everyday, whether it be at a gas station, Walmart, and etc. Just approach and don't just approach lone women. Approach groups... get use to socializing in general. Just don't forget the best question for all groups.... "So how do you all know eachother?"


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PostPosted: Wed Aug 23, 2017 8:23 am 
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Yes it is a muscle, very well put..


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I've by and by been training single men to have more certainty with ladies for a long time now, and the one staying point which keeps the greater part of us from meeting more ladies is called approach uneasiness. As far as I can tell the motivation behind why such a significant number of us experience the ill effects of this trial is a direct result of dread. When we approach new ladies we are confronted with a wide range of potential issues including an anxiety of being rejected, Custom Essay Writing Service a stress of not being sufficient and a dread of humiliation.


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Strong exhortation. Infact the more you approach the more less demanding it moves toward becoming. Be that as it may, I completely trust it resembles a muscle you got to persistently work it ordinary, regardless of whether it be at a service station, Walmart, Essay Writing Company and so forth. Simply approach and don't simply approach solitary ladies. Approach gatherings... inspire use to associating by and large. Simply keep in mind the best inquiry for all groups.


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I'd like to add one way to help with approaching women is to approach random people whether its ; guys , families, girls etc. Start approaching and sparking up random conversations and have some positive short interactions.

This will build confidence that you can talk to anyone any time and anywhere. After a few of these you will get amped and be able to approach a girl a lot easier because of the positive interactions you had prior. It's like a warm up basically and not giving a shit if a old lady rejects you or some random person. I mean would you get mad if you strike up a conversation about watermelons on sale with some old lady and she was like fuck off? I know I wouldn't same thing here applies.

So when you are out on your daily - whether it be getting gas , stopping to return a red box, going to the grocery store, or perhaps just walking the street. Start talking to people and learn to be a conversationalist.


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So many of the fears that pop up in guy’s head when thinking about how to approach a girl he likes have no basis in reality. Guys have these stories and beliefs that if he approaches a girl then everything will go horribly wrong. She’ll fly off the handle (or turn ice-cold), humiliate him, and everyone around will point and laugh and he’ll feel like a loser. Then the girl will spend the rest of her life remembering that lame guy who had the nerve to try and start a conversation with her at a bar.

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