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PostPosted: Thu Mar 05, 2015 6:00 pm 
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Wont let me put in the link due to me being a new member my username is Marvellous_Matt.

I based it on a online dating book I read, I always feel the need to tell girls about my disability before dates or meet up's which I feel is a weakness, I thought putting it in my profile would avoid such conversions if I could talk about it in a positive light.

Good thing? bad thing? good profile in general? bad profile in general?

Would be grateful for some feedback, I'll had a couple of average girls message me with short messages saying hi and a few meet me likes.

Thanks in advance, Matt


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PostPosted: Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:09 pm 
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What would your disability be?

I am unable to access your profile.

Welcome to the forum, though :)


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PostPosted: Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:26 pm 
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I have Cerebral Palsy in my right arm, I cant use it but I had an op around 12 years ago so it hangs by my side and is slightly shorter then my left due to not being able to fully stretch it out like the other.

Here's my profile for people who cant not get onto my profile

"You Miss 100% of the shots you don't take" <-----HEADLINE

"Are you kind, caring, ambitious, funny and adventurous?

After spending the last few years of saving up to move out, buying a car and getting through my driving test. A big part of my next phrase in life is to find that special someone to hook up with, have fun and to do spontaneous things together, that’s why I thought I would have a go on here.

As you can see from my photos I love to socialise and as somebody with a disability I feel incredibly lucky to have good heath, great friends and family in my life who are very important to me. I also like to volunteer when I can for people that are more disadvantaged and perhaps work as a Support Worker one day . I see my Cerebral Palsy as my driving force as it spurs me on to achieve my goals, dreams and fulfil my ambitions, I’m not going to waste this one life I have.

Like most guys, I like attractive woman, sure, but what I’m really after is a cultured girl with a sense of adventure, I really need a girl who can find the enjoyment in the little things and big whether that’s going out for dinner and drinks together, walking in the countryside or going away on city breaks at home or aboard. If you’re not that kind of girl who can scruff it up for a while or all you got to offer is a Barbie girl image then we’re not going to get on.

I’m hoping to find a person on here who has the same interests as me or new interests we can share, my favourite city is London as I never get bored of finding things to do there but I fancy Dublin at the moment for my next trip away.

If you have read this far you must either be cultured or adventurous, hopefully both ;) I’ll be waiting for your message."


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PostPosted: Thu Mar 05, 2015 8:21 pm 
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Hey man,

I have mixed feelings about including your disability on your profile... Does it interfere with your day-to-day? If it doesn't then I wouldn't mention it.

Your profile itself is very long. It's decently written, but the photos with your profile are way more important than the words... What do they look like? There are a number of threads on here about photo use in online dating. What works and what doesn't... Here's one of the better ones, written by PEBBLE:

online-game-isn-t-that-bad-vt186710.html

That may give you some pointers.

Bottom line is I would focus on your pics... And I would decide whether to include your disability or not based on whether it's a big deal or not... If she's immediately going to notice and it somehow impedes your day-to-day life, or the way you guys would have to do activities, I would probably mention it... Otherwise, leave it out.

That's my 2 cents anyway.


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PostPosted: Tue Mar 17, 2015 9:14 am 
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I have Cerebral Palsy in my right arm, I cant use it but I had an op around 12 years ago so it hangs by my side and is slightly shorter then my left due to not being able to fully stretch it out like the other.

Here's my profile for people who cant not get onto my profile

"You Miss 100% of the shots you don't take" <-----HEADLINE

A big part of my next phase in life is to find that special someone to hook up with, have fun and to do spontaneous things together.

As you can see from my photos I socialise a lot. I am incredibly lucky to have great friends and family in my life.

I’m hoping to find a person on here who has new interests and passion we can share.
Give examples of the small things that capture your curiosity. Do not post the disability in your profile. Post photos of your entire, clothed, body. You should give full disclosure of the disability when talking to someone on the phone.

Avoid "I" statements, because they are narcissistic. Focus, on examples of your smarts, humor, or romantic nature. Avoid talking about interests, because no one will dig you because you happen to coincide with skiing. What is interesting is YOU. Focus on romance. Always, make your romantic intentions known.

Be prepared for a lot of BS with online dating. A bit of advice, meeting women IRL is best so the woman can see the person you are up front, self-explanatory. That way she must choose on the spot to accept you or not without explanations. Your cool, good soul, and natural looks will shine much better than an online profile.

Cheers.


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