Quick question guys: How much success have you had with setting up first dates at your house? I've done that a couple of times successfully but now I've got another girl, who seems pretty great, in a not too slutty way, and we kind of talked about cooking at my place, but I'm not sure if she took that too seriously or would go for it. Should I just act like I thought it was serious and just tell her when she should come over or set up a date at a coffee place or cocktail bar or smth like I mostly do? How do you guys handled that, have you ever set up a first date at your place?
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Yeah I used to setup plenty of first dates at my apartment for dinner and a movie or whatever. You are going to have to have some really good comfort built and a good read on the girl before that can happen.
#1 thing everyone says to people who meet people online is MEET THEM IN A PUBLIC PLACE. If you don't have the rapport or the comfort built where they are starting to trust you because they know you are and what you are about then don't do it. You are going to have to think through your conversations with the girl and get a read on her as to whether she's cool with it.
If you are still unsure you can always throw out a A & B date option. A.) I can cook for you and show you the magic of my famous spaghetti sauce if you are determined not to be an axe murderer maybe you can stay for a movie. OR B.) We can head out to this place I love to eat at called ________.
Okay, I am going to give a disclaimer here. I use to tease the shit out of women about being a serial killer, axe murder, rapist, or other stuff. I do this to lighten the mood because so many woman who meet guys are worried initially you are going to have something wrong with you, or you're a killer. We've all heard the stories. Most of the time its basically an online type of shit test. Anyways I used like to throw it in a girls face and tease her with it like, "My momma will never forgive me if I invite some axe murderer in my place and she kills her little boy. So you have to promise to leave your weapons at home for at least one date. Deal?"
At the same time of disarming her, I'm letting her know I'm a normal guy, yes I have a mother (we all do), and she cares about me. Its just a way to build comfort and ease the mood of this BIG DECISION to meet a guy at his house you just met for dinner.
Hope it helps. Cheers!