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So as we know, online dating is all about the abundance mentality. Especially with Tinder, there's just so many women to filter through. And these women have exponentially more options themselves, so it's all about striking while the iron is hot and maximizing your return.
This is why, a lot of the time, I don't really want to waste my time going out for drinks, for a walk, or for some other lame date with a girl. I would rather get into her apartment for the first date because that obviously sets the stage for a hookup. Some girls are worth putting in a few dates of effort for. But others... I'll either have a one night stand or nothing at all.
So how do you manage to get them to let you come over (or vice versa) before the meeting? I know it can happen, and I manage it a fair amount of the time, but I'm looking to increase my odds.
I know a lot of the advice on here advocates being super direct but I think this requires more finesse. The timing has to be right (later in the evening but not too late).
What kind of lines do you typically use?
I have got this down to a science, it's more to do with polarizing at the
beginning
Let's say you have 2 profiles:
Profile A) You present yourself as the guy that has his shit together and a cool lifestyle.
Profile B) You present yourself that you are a guy that is only on Tinder for one thing only. You have a shirtless pic of your abs and revealing the top part of your dick. Your face isn't even in the pic till teh 2nd pic in.
Profile A - I would suggest to go for some casual drinks and be more gentleman like unless she has given you some DTF indicator that she DTF, though. But getting these girls that are matched with yo....getting them to your bedroom on the 1st meet is just unrealistic unless you are way ahead of her with your looks, but I have had a few exceptions in my time. You can get many matches and get many dates. But you will get a lot of the 'Not till after 3rd date' type of girls that i don't have the patience for.
Profile B - If a girl matches you despite your douchey profile, then it's quite certain (if she isn't a time waster) that she is down to fuck even before you have even spoken. She is just after something physical. It's mutual. You then message her and invite her to your place. If she declines, just tell her that you weren't going to take her in but just to meeting point before the drink (a nice safety net) - To which a drink and make-out are all that is needed and it's pretty hard to not get same night sex an hour later
The key is to polarize from the start.
When I go on holiday, I encourage girls to swipe away from me. I put in my profile 'English gentleman on holiday till x date' not looking for a wife'
This way, I know a lot of the girls will swipe on but when I do get a match, I know it has potential because I have preset the frame that I am looking for something casual. When I went to New York. I had matches but a lot of the girls were like 'Well, you're going home soon, so no point in meeting' which mean I filtered away that were going to be 6th date if im lucky types
So decide if you are the A and B type and make your profile around that.
Personally, I am the A profile but I polarize with the profile description as much as I can.
Wish I had abs like RC :p
Test it for yourself, pay for Tinder and swipe girls in a separate city with the GPS feature. You will be amazed what you can get away with it. I once put photoshopped my face on a body of a male stripper. It was an eye opener for sure. Suddenly girls commenting how pretty my eye's are all of a sudden...