potential pua wrote:
@TonyKing I really enjoy reading your posts about NLP.
I recently got into the community and in looking to diversify my game, I came across NLP. I have read the Intro to NLP as you recommended, but...
I seem to be stuck in between conscious incompetence and conscious competence phase of learning.
I'm a visual learner so reading can be difficult, but I still enjoy reading.
My question for you: how did you switch into the conscious competence phase of learned material so that you can use it in field?
Hey man! I appreciate your comment!
This is kind of a hard question because i dont analyze my learning to the extent of cutting it up in phases like the steps from unconscious incompetence to unconscious competence.
The way it worked for me is that i first read intro to nlp and then started to learn about the transfer of personal energies, intent and the power of the mind in general. In NLP, speech and language are perhaps 30-35% of the whole package. It is also about your posture, tone of voice, your intent and your self-esteem. Patterns are merely a tool, the skills of the craftsman are developed from within.
After that i started to learn and memorize patterns (also non-related to PUA) and the structure of the NLP language in general. A great book for this is "The Big Book of NLP Techniques" by Shlomo Vaknin.
When you understand a certain canned pattern and how it works, you can start to change it, tweak it and disect it to see if you can improve or change its effect. Test it on people both in its original and altered form and see if you can make it happen. This was my key to learning before i enrolled in my NLP practitioner course.
Needless to say, practice is key and you can practice on not only girls but also your friends, family and people in college / at work etc.
I understand that for a visual learner, learning by text can be a bit of a challenge. But on the other hand there are tons of video-courses out there to purchase filled with real-life examples of how NLP works and how you build your skills and your set both in PUAism and in life in general.
I hope my answer has been able to bring you some clarity even if the answer perhaps wasnt question-specific
All the best!