Hm. Today, at the gym, I flirted with a hired 8. I chatted her slightly, and she showed some interest, asking what I was going to do today, and I took the opportunity to ask her out, basically to which she said she had a boyfriend. I told he was a lucky man, she concurred, and gracefully ejected without any loss of social value, I think.
My mistakes were that I needed to establish more attraction on her part, and while liked talking to me, going for the number close sans qualification didn't fly. I think I didn't come across as uncomfortable, but I definitely come across as too hasty (but in a polite way) to her.
I didn't show much personality at all, aside from saying I was listening to a talking book about John Lennon. Didn't demonstrate much energy, either, though I think I showed agerage energy, in a pleasant, calm, casual manner, which isn't unattractive.
In my limited, but growing experience, attarting girls is move about knowing how to engage them, and get them to talk. Most girls aren't interested in your interests, and that takes time. In the initial encounter is to engage them enough to agree to meetup later so you can get to know eachother better, assuming you really want something more than sex, which is the case for me.
Me, I've been ejecting to soon, and am not being effective at keeping the conversation going, even when she's interested. I in part asked for this girl's number today because I couldn't think of anything to say, and she was stil showing interest. _________________ If you ever get the idea that I'm a crazy contrarian, just get a whiff my blogs:
http://noitartst.com/
&:
http://thevanitymirror.com/
(I think I'm provocative in a good way; see if you concur!)
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