There are two possibilities.
If it's for a physiological reason, you have to get her to exercise more, take vitamins, eat healthier, and maybe spike her drink with libido enhancers. Or you could jerk off / fuck other women. In general though, this situation should never occur. If a girl's natural secks drive isn't as high as you'd like it to be, just drop her and get someone new. Don't let Oneitis hold you back. Screen a girl before you make her your girlfriend, this issue always ends up becoming WAY more significant AFTER months have gone by in an LTR.
If it's for the more common reason of just lackluster passion, you need to increase competitive anxiety. I think men tend to forget why girls have secks in the first place, from a biological standpoint. For guys, we are recurrently always wanting secks because we were built that way. We are polygamous. Girl's on the other hand, are hypergamous. They want secks as much as we do, but in a different way.
Most guys would dump a free fuck on their exes in a heartbeat, but most girl's wouldn't fuck their exes, especially if they were the ones to LJBF them. Why? Because they've desexualized them, there's no motivation for them to fuk them. Women are NOT constantly horny the way we are, they are turned on by a man whom they perceive to have high value, and then their inner slut comes out.
But what happens once they get into a relationship with this man? His attention is consistently there, but think about how women work. Once they get pregnant, there's no "motivation" for secks biologically, the way there is for men. They don't need to "always be having secks" the way our brains are wired to want it. A man can maximize his biological payout by having as MUCH secks possible, with as many different women as he can. BUT a girl can maximize her biological payout by having secks only 10 times, as long as all 10 times were with the man she perceived to be the most Alpha, the one with the most lady-killer genes. Theoretically she does not benefit from having secks a "million" times the way we CAN. This is why a lot of women tend to want secks less as a relationship progresses. The reason for having secks changes on a fundamental level. It becomes either
A. A pussy hand out, she uses her vagina to reinforce good behavior
or
B. To reinforce the RELATIONSHIP. Men use relationships to get secks, women use secks to get relationships.
You should ALWAYS try and keep it at (B). That's the key to having a successful secksual relationship. There must be SECKSUAL TENSION for any LTR to work. She must WANT to have secks with you, it cannot be a chore. She needs to feel "pressured" into it, because she'll lose you unless you're satisfied. She needs to WANT to have morning marathons with you because she's afraid she'll lose you to another woman if she doesn't. Women want men that OTHER WOMEN WANT TO FUCK. She needs to imagine that you are in high demand, and a challenge, and that without satisfying your godlike hunger for secks, she will lose you to the thousands of other woman who want you.
Where there is no challenge, there is no secks. If a relationship can occur without secks, what's motivating the girl? Essentially she already "has" what she wants.
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