Thank you to most of the posts, I appreciate the slaps on the wrist as well as the offers to help me out through PM, I was really freaking out at this time. I was being a bit selfish when I wrote this, I'll admit, I think it was my initial reaction and fear of my life going hellish - I'm pretty idealistic when it comes to planning my future.
The next week after this happened was hectic - we went to the doctors' twice and took some tests as well. She didn't have a period for six weeks in total, but the urine tests she took were negative - except one which looked faintly positive. The doctors' urine tests were both negative, but her symptoms persisted, no period, nausea, other stuff like that, and I was almost certain she was pregnant anyway. We talked about it for a long time, and she explained that she couldn't bear to get an abortion, coincidentally enough, an atheist friend of mine gave an amazing speech in English class supporting anti-abortion laws the next day, and we watched "Juno" at home. Now that was weird.
I told myself to sit it out, stop worrying and whatever happened, I would commit to my mistakes completely and support her in any way I could. I waited for two weeks, and she told me one day that she'd been to the hospital, and had a blood test, and she wasn't pregnant. I was relieved, but I asked why she had gone to the hospital... She replied that she had really bad stomach cramps, and she had been told the baby had died, as it was a fallopian pregnancy, and also that it was conceived after we broke up, with another guy.
We talked for a long time at her house, and I comforted her as best I could. It wasn't her fault or mine that all this stress came on to us, and I'm still going to be her friend and give her a shoulder to lean on. But I can't pretend it's not a relief.
I guess it was just one of those freaky points in your life. I'm not going to tempt fate again. Since then an amazing girl that I have wanted for years has finally warmed to me, she's incredibly smart, funny and attractive, going to uni next year to do some high level course in fashion. She's been flirting with me all week, and so long as I don't fuck it up, going out with her would be a dream come true. But I think I'll always remember just these three weeks in which I thought my life would change forever.
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