Master Yoda wrote:
Thanks for the backhanded insults and shaming language, but that's to be expected from the PUA community, which gets its jollies by ganging up on men like me.
I resent, and find it deeply offensive that you think that's it's all my fault that I find myself challenged by dating, when you have never met me, know what I look like, and or know me personally. For your information up until the last few years I did lead an active social life where I did attempt to meet women, but was met with a barrage of instant rejection, so please don't accuse me of having a bad or dysfunctional personality because how is a woman supposed to know the real me, when she doesn't even give me a chance? Also, I took all the cliched advice dispensed by society, relatives, women, and regrettably some of it from the PUA industry, none of which worked, so you can't accuse me of not trying different methods. I am not making excuses, I am being honest, and knowing my limitations as a man, and the worse thing a man can do, is to lie to himself, and pretend to be something or someone he is not.
And what also makes me angry is when the PUAs and other people blame me for my cursed luck with women, is that I am "damned if I do", and "damned if I don't", which means if I try to meet women and get rejected, you call me a loser, chode, AFC etc, but if I give up, you still call me a loser. When will you PUAs realise that when a woman saids no, she actually means no, what part of the no word don't you understand?, the n or the o?
You PUAs also have to understand that as man I have no control on how a woman reacts to me, or whether she is atttracted to me, at the end of the day, it's her choice, as women are the choosers and they are the sole gatekeepers of relationships and sex. Of course there things as a man you do have control over, eg. your hygiene, your dress sense, your physique and fitness and of obviously your own behaviour.
If the PUA was actually serious about helping dating challenged men, instead of insiulting them and making false assumptions (like you have about me), offer these men constructive and supportive advice, instead of making empty promises and ganging up on them.
First off what makes you think I am insulting you and such? Ever heard of tough love before? You are interpreting what some us are saying as insults when in fact they are not but blunt in your face advice and opinions about your situation. Which is clear you don't want to hear. The thing I don't get is you come here all butt hurt for a position you your self put your self in and instead of asking what you can do to change it you are ranting and raving about how it is all about the looks and nothing else. Yet we are trying to tell you its more than just the looks. Yes looks come into play as well its the first thing a girl sees. But you been too butt hurt to see that we been telling you its more than just your physical looks. Its also about how you dress, act, behave etc that effect how you look. So freaking what if you work out and are all buff, if you dress sloppy or not well all that working out is at a waste.
To break it down for you since this like the third time I told you, looks encompass the following:
- Physical body
- Body language
I will also say and I know you are going to deny the hell out of this, that just because a guy is physically attractive, does not mean the girl will remain interested after he opens his mouth. I know it be hard to believe for you but it is true.
Also you are the one insulting your self, not me. I never called you a looser but pointing out how what you been saying is a reflection of you. You say girls view you as worthless as YOU view your self as worthless and think you can't change your situation yet you can and won't because you are to dam butt hurt. I could actually insult you but what good will that do? As I mention before I am being honest with you and telling you things you don't want to hear. Would you feel better if we lied to you and said you must look like Brad Pit to get girls?
^ Jurupa this is so good i am gonna steal it...