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PostPosted: Sat Apr 15, 2017 11:12 pm 
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Hey guys so I've been doing some serious reading on all this PUA stuff and I find it incredibly interesting and introspective. Problem is, I can't really apply shit into my real life situations. I have a crush on this freshman girl (I'm a junior in HS) and god damn it fucks my ability to talk and tease naturally, which usually I'm fairly good at.
Anyways long story short I tried to "Apply" the things I read only for it to fall flat as I was too nervous. I then went through a period of maybe 4months where I basically tried to suppress my infatuation as I had no logical reason to like her. I avoided her as best I could for those four months. I know now that it just leads to a destructive cycle of self deprecating thought...
To make it worse, I told one of her best friends (whose also a good friend of mine) about my crush and she proceeded to tell her :oops:
I try talking to her after that four month AFC mental beatdown and she actually opened to me. Problem is that now that she knows I like her I feel like she just pities me. When I talked to her about how I thought that it was dumb to put value in feelings if they're just that, with no true connection to back it up, she confessed that she liked a guy and was glad I said that, then immediately said "but I don't like him anymore. She also confessed to being really emotional and crying three times a week...
Apparently I later found out from her friend that she does indeed like a guy who "hates her" (realistically probably just teases her harshly and doesn't really care about her) and she's basically stuck in that self destructive cycle I was in four months ago. It explains the pity, the crying, and I suspect the story in which she said "but I don't like him anymore"

I'm not sure what to do to be honest as I feel like I have to break the LJBF barrier she's probably already set up with some serious change in my attitude. But now that I've had that deep talk with her in which I basically opened to her how I felt I feel like any drastic change in my behavior will just come off as fake and pathetic.

God damn this is so much complicated than it needs to be. Suggestions?


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PostPosted: Sun Apr 16, 2017 10:11 pm 
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Stop thinking about her. Stop finding reasons why you are "the perfect match". You're talking about her insecurities as if they're something good, just because you have them as well. Let's say you'll go on a date in the future: what are you gonna do? Cry together in a corner or have an amazing time and make her forget about that douchebag.

Go for other girls first and then maybe you'll have a chance again.

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PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 9:28 am 
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This isn't about getting *that one girl*. This is about developing a persona that will help you get the girls you like consistently.

It doesn't happen overnight OP.

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 Post subject: Re: Hairy AFC situation
PostPosted: Wed Apr 19, 2017 3:16 pm 
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I feel like I have to break the LJBF barrier she's probably already set up.

No, you set that shit up yourself Mister!

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