The situation's pretty complex, but here's the short version: my ex-gf emailed me out of the blue saying she wants to be friends. This is REALLY out of character for her to show so much 'interest'. She's been the one to break the 3-4 month+ periods of silence. For a while it was to see if it could work while we were in the same city, after the failure of a long distance thing. Now it's her emailing me after 9 months of not talking, just to be friends.

I gave her an over-strong Ross Jeffries response, that made me sound bitchy, and may well have killed it off. I'm not waiting for her, or stopping going out and trying to improve my life, but I wouldn't mind giving it another shot with her. I've been an "armchair pua" for a while, and am trying to get out and live it. I've been building up the skills to handle the actual relationship part, so it's not just a repeat, but I could use an idea for an intro.

Any help would be great. I already wrote a novel, so I'll stop, but there are plenty more details if they'd help. Thanks.

Out of curiousity, what was the Ross Jeffries's response you used?

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I said that whatever she and I are I'm not promising anything or pigeon holing it. I also mentioned that I don't do 'superficial friendships' well (superficial because that's what I'd call friends who email a couple times every few months), and in the past when things went wrong like they did, I normally cut and burn.

I know that I would have handled it better today, but even if it's a screwup, I'd rather not see her than be her 'friend'. That said, I wouldn't mind taking another shot at a relationship on my terms. Ideally, I'd want to find a way to make her come to me, short of living a pua life and hoping she'll run into me.

For me, I get her to keep thinking about me. How?

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"There is always a solution to even the hardest problem in life."

"If something is important enough to you, you won't give up"

Well we really don't run in the same circles, so that's the problem. We broke up before we were in the same city, so I don't know where and when she does what. Short of sitting outside her house (not gonna happen), it's up to chance or just having fun in some social circles that she may run into. Can't say I'd mind hooking up with someone she knows...

I had no ideas, so I figured I'd give posting a shot. I guess I was looking for some snappy excuses for getting in touch again, since maybe someone had a similar experience and insight.