Since joining the forum one of my main goals has been to keep pushing myself to get out of my comfort zone and rid myself of anxiety. Having never really paid much attention to Tinder (not really contacting matches etc) I decided, why the fuck not?
Matched with a cute girl, about 40mins away from me! Sent her a clever opener (Thanks R.C.) and got some great feedback... Escalated quickly and got her number. Moving on I explained how I didn't like to text too much as I felt it could ruin the connection and things can be lost and misconstrued within, continued to explain how I wasn't going to try and charm her with text on a screen and that we should meet for drinks as I wouldn't want to miss a fantastic opportunity!
Met up the following night, I had reserved a table which she appreciated. Made sure to begin kino almost immediately, kiss on the cheek, held her hand as she sat down... Conversation was fantastic, I led with open statements and questions (Generally not a problem for me) and based it completely on her, she opened up about her passions and family life and then was really interested in what I had to say.
Shout out to Poeticlyskuac and his body language thread once again it has been an eye opener, very quickly I started to see a lot of mirroring, preening, figeting in the form of finger drumming, as well as the phallic stroke on her glass... I maintained a very strong, confident frame throughout and held eye contact very well (something I've worked at).
Towards the end of the first bar she started to touch me a lot, my leg, my knee, my arm... She apologized every single time, but continued to seem way too "clumsy", she told stories one of which involved her reaching over an touching my face!
Anyway, I had a total "It's on" feeling then, and we proceeded to the second bar, Time Distortion (Thanks Chief) the second bar was a lot more chill and dimly lit... I made sure to lead the conversation sexual, she continued to give plenty of input and the physical escalation continued, my hand on her lower back, leg and brushed something off her face just before lingering eye contact and a kiss close!
She invited me back to hers, stating she never does that on a first date. I told her I respected that and that I'd take the couch, again responding totally unphased.
Back to hers, went to the bathroom and when I came out I was being ushered to her room for Netflix, continued to escalate even further reminding her that I was sleeping on the couch...
She went to get "changed" and when she came back she told me to get into bed... The rest is history!
Felt like I really tackled the Kino Escalation well, something I had been struggling with... I presented a strong confident frame that was fun and easy going as well as infallible. Eye contact was good and I was happy with the transition between bars and she commented how comfortable she was. Amazing how much body language stuff I could pick up also...