Hello,
I am 27 years old and a few days ago decided to study/learn how to be a PUA. I picked up "The Game" By Neil Strauss and am learning about IOI's, opening, demonstrating value, building a physical and emotional connection, and closing. I suffer from anxiety and the thought of approaching that pretty girl at the store and gaming her causes me to sweat profusely. With that being said my score is 3. That's pretty depressing to me.
I've gotten laid from POF.com. Send a few messages, get number, text, when she texts back, call, say an outrageous story, and schedule a time to meet.
So even though I have been on dates before and have had sex, I am not confident. I do have a "I don't give a fuck" attitude at times, so I think after I learn some routines I will be able to apply them without worrying about whether or not I will have sex with that girl or not. Practice right?
I'm over the online dating though and want to experience real life approaches, pick ups and strive to improve my self, much like Style. I have aspirations of becoming one of the greatest pick up artists alive, and I mean even if I don't, it's good to shoot for the moon and land among the stars, right? Anyway.
I'm originally from Poland. I'm 6'2 and I would say I'm a 6 or a 7. I've been going to strip clubs over the last two weeks to build some confidence with just talking to girls/women, and I'm not sure how that will be perceived here, but I think if it helps build confidence - or artificial confidence, then it shouldn't be a bad thing. I even asked out one stripper but she said No. It was closing time at the club and she mentioned she was hungry, so I said "Let's grab something to eat". She said "No, maybe next time". She's either got a boyfriend or I didn't build enough attraction with her.
I tend to run out of things to talk about, and there's that silence. In that time the girl probably losses attraction/attention or gets bored. Any advice on how to become a better talker? Obviously talk more, right? In "The Game" Style signed up for speech therapy classes, I might look into that. I know I'm so freaking old and I'm just getting started with taking my PUA growth seriously, but I hope I will be warmly welcomed and given resources to read, and people to communicate with. I'm from the NW Suburbs of Chicago.
I also think I should get a tan, it just makes people more attractive in my eyes. It adds .5-1 points on the attractiveness scale in my opinion.
Thanks for reading.
-Polak "Winter" Mode 20
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