| Author |
Message |
PeteCage
New to PUA Forum
Joined: 26 Dec 2007
Posts: 3
Location: Bonita Springs, FL
Reputation: 0.5  
|
 Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 6:16 am Post subject: Intimidation Problem |
 |
|
| I am 23 years old and I like to lift weights alot. My problem is though that every woman I date always tells me that when I first approached them they got this cocky asshole vibe off me. Then as soon as they got to know me better they realized I'm totally the opposite. What I'm wondering is, other then quiting weight lifting how can I go about taking care of something I project to women? |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
|
LoveMonkey
PUA Forum Addict
Joined: 31 Aug 2007
Posts: 240
Reputation: 54.9
votes: 1
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 6:23 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Not sure if you were doing this currently but make sure you smile, and laugh/joke with the women your talking to. It will make them feel more comfortable |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
yogaballfairy
New to PUA Forum
Joined: 22 Dec 2007
Posts: 27
Reputation: 5.9
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 8:08 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| I definetely wouldnt quit lifting just so you dont look cocky. Keep lifting but just be more yourself when you first approach. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Augustus
PUA Forum Enthusiast
Joined: 19 Jul 2007
Posts: 56
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
Reputation: 29.6
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 8:12 pm Post subject: |
|
|
Any examples of a conversation gone wrong? I would definately say that you should continue lifting weights, quiting that is just stupid. Maybe you should re-balance the element of cocky-funny that you use in your openers if your appearing too cocky try to add more humor to it. If that doesnt work at all shuffle your tactics, use an opinion opener or an "Oh My God" Style opener.
Cheers!
~ Augustus |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Starbuck
PUA Forum Leader
Joined: 23 Jun 2007
Posts: 1135
Location: S.C. USA
Reputation: 121.3
votes: 1
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 9:23 pm Post subject: Re: Intimidation Problem |
|
|
| PeteCage wrote: | | I am 23 years old and I like to lift weights alot. My problem is though that every woman I date always tells me that when I first approached them they got this cocky asshole vibe off me. Then as soon as they got to know me better they realized I'm totally the opposite. What I'm wondering is, other then quiting weight lifting how can I go about taking care of something I project to women? |
Smile and relax pete.
Stand at a slight angle to them as well. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
L.A. Tripp
Guest
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 9:37 pm Post subject: |
|
|
Welcome to the forum PeteCage.
As has been said, definitely don't quit lifting. I haven't lifted in quite a while myself, but used to lift all the time. It could be, as Starbuck said, that you aren't relaxed, or that you don't smile, or the way you approach. It's all about your internal attitude, really. Approach at an angle, not straight on and confrontational. Be relaxed, smile, and "feel" warm and friendly. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
|
Valence
PUA Forum Zealot
Joined: 22 Mar 2007
Posts: 418
Location: Austin Texas
Reputation: 62.3
votes: 1
|
| Posted: Fri Dec 28, 2007 10:39 pm Post subject: |
|
|
I concur with Starbuck.
Have fun and smile. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
chio
Dedicated Member
Joined: 28 Dec 2007
Posts: 580
Reputation: 58.2
votes: 1
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 12:03 am Post subject: Re: Intimidation Problem |
|
|
| PeteCage wrote: | | I am 23 years old and I like to lift weights alot. My problem is though that every woman I date always tells me that when I first approached them they got this cocky asshole vibe off me. Then as soon as they got to know me better they realized I'm totally the opposite. What I'm wondering is, other then quiting weight lifting how can I go about taking care of something I project to women? |
Take some yoga classes to loosen up, open your eyes more, smile, check your clothing. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
PeteCage
New to PUA Forum
Joined: 26 Dec 2007
Posts: 3
Location: Bonita Springs, FL
Reputation: 0.5
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 6:38 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Thank you for all replying, yea I do get tense when approaching women. But the problem is that I get like shell shock. I might try the yoga class to relax, I am fairly edgy, it's always been an issue of mine is I cant really relax out in public. Plus I get nervious so I talk in a low voice, but dont know how to fix that. I'd never stop lifting weights, I've been lifting for a very long time and have built up a very good physique. It just sucks because I do get approached alot by women telling me they think I'm very attractive, but thats at bar and then usually I end up finding out they have boyfriends or husbands, or are just flat out one night stand types. Which isnt bad, but I'm looking for something that is going to have substance. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
L.A. Tripp
Guest
|
| Posted: Sat Dec 29, 2007 7:14 am Post subject: |
|
|
| The way to relax in public is to get more comfortable with yourself. That's all it boils down to. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
