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qwerty17
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 Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 4:11 pm Post subject: Impossible target..? |
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Okay, so there's this girl I k-closed a couple of times some months ago but it just sort of fizzled out for whatever reason. Anyway, just over a week ago she approached me in a club and we kissed again. We were both pretty wasted at the time, but it happened again earlier this week and we arranged to go out for a drink on valentines day. We did so and had a pretty pleasant evening which ended with more kissing.
Here's the problem. We arranged to go for a drink this evening and she flaked. This girl is widely considered to be a HB9+ but is in no way typical. I know for a fact that she is particularly inexperienced and insecure for a girl of her attractiveness. She is renowned for her cold first impression and, more importantly, has a reputation for seeing guys for a limited amount of time before making an excuse and breaking it off. I hate to be defeatest but I think this thing has run its course.
Does anyone have any experience or advice for dealing with a girl like this..? |
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mOlis_pir3s
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a girl like that has trust issues..she has def been hurt in the past and quite hard too prob..the thing is once she starts to feel like shes getting used to some1 or getting attatched in the slightest way she runs away cuz she's scared of becoming dependant on them..uses excuses usually like "i got bored of him" etc to her friends..
anyways the way to go with this girl i think is quite tricky because you cn fall in the LJBF zone easily, but you have to have conversations with her, she must get to know you better whilst still liking you at the same time. you cant rush this which kinda sucks cuz if you talk too much and do too little sometimes theyre like 'this is nice..i dont want to ruin it bc of sex or something' so be careful.. you got to make her feel safe around you, so that she doesnt think that you will jump her at any time.
lastly, in order for her to keep on talking to you, you need to keep it interesting, so dont prioritise her always, seem like a busy guy, but like a busy guy who can also make time for her at times  it might take long and you might need a pivot at some point..
hope this helps abit, sorry for the long answer   |
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Lone Wolf
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Do not act like it bothers you or act needy in any way whatsoever. Just act exactly how you were to her when you met her but don't give her so much attention. Freeze her out and go out with some other friends or meet some other girls. When she sees you having a good time with someone else she's get jealous.
I've had girls flake on me like this but I simply brush them off but I don't burn bridges and whenever I see them again I'll be friendly but not give them m too much attention and often tell them a story which hints at me seeing other girls or having lots of fun. |
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qwerty17
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| Thanks guys, I think you're right. I'm a bit annoyed at myself because I've definitely played it less cool than I should have with this girl. I thought I'd need to in order to break down her barriers, you know? I guess I'll leave this one on the 'to do' pile and pursue other things for a bit. |
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