Okay. So, first, it can't be so bad. I recommend you to take some

matrial arts classes (like karate, jujitsu or whatever). If nothing less, you will have more confidence. I heard that the "Krav Maga" is great - izraelian special forces are using it and that means something. They say it comes off as "natural" and "easy."
I have never been in mexico. But I guess that every big city is the same - New York, Prague etc. If you want help on tens and nines than get some e-books. Thing is, be different than the others, and treat her normally, like 7's and 8's.
