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Mr Fahrenheit
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 Posted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject: I'm Depressed! |
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Not actually depressed, I'm just a bit down in the dumps and need some enchoragement and advice. When I choose to use a little perspective my problems are tiny and insignificant but I'm an irational person and they still bug me.
Friends- Just left school, so many friends have fallen from contact. I hooked up with a love interest of one of my good friends and now he hates me. Wont have oppurtunity to make new decent friends until I get into university later next month.
Relationships- The girl I thought I was into, is I swear trying to piss me off on purpose. She flaked on me for a week because she said she was sick, then she flaked on me again because she said she was tired. Then she used the same excuse to flake on me last night that she used to flake on someone else and hang out with me a while back. Tonight when we were out she was acting like a brat giving me a hard time and disagreeing with all my ideas for stuff to do, then at the end of the night when I kissed her she claimed to still be sick I said BS you just dont want to kiss me, she laughed and said yeh. Then went inside. The girl I am into, is working all tomorrow so I cant organise something with her.
Health- I got a miagrane this morning which usually coinsides with a recession of my total wellbeing, which is probly as a result of my recent lack of excersise and crappy diet. Also am having trouble sleeping.
Finance- Only work one day a week as a result of overstaffing, and am starting to eat away into my savings, uni tuition will result in me having a massive debt starting next year and buying text books and other equipment will mean my savings will be nearly gone. |
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TrojanMan88
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| Posted: Tue Jan 08, 2008 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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| stop being a pussy...lol |
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smudge
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just gotta focus man, sort things out one by one, join a social club, martial art, dance or singing, or just go out more... go sarging on ur own
and get another job if it can deliver
| TrojanMan88 wrote: | | stop being a pussy...lol |
leave it out... |
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3 hands
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Seems like you need to get your life in order.
Here are a few tips for you.
-Make a planning for yourself each day. Make sure you do everything on the plan each day. Don't overplan the day though. Start yourself off easy with 1-3 things each day that you HAVE to do like for example:
Go shop for fresh food.
Do the dishes.
Read 1 Pick up article.
And after a few days add a few more things
-Go work out atleast 30 minutes a day. Run around the block a few times.
-Buy Good food, No junkfood Red Bull and alcohol. Get yourself tea, Juice Good red meat (No white strips with fat in it) Buy Olive oil to bake it in, much more healthy then butter. Buy veggies and some fruits, This is A less expensive then junk food and B tastes better. Good veggies are Chinese Cabage or Paksoi, Paprika, Cucumber. These are generally pretty cheap. As for fruit Apples kiwi's banana's and oranges are great.
-Friends, I had this one a few months ago, I left my home province and headed for the big city. All my friends are scattered all over europe. I knew this would happen and went to live in a student house with 3 other people. So, I don't have to sit around alone when I have nothing to do. And I found some other PUAs in my area. 2 of wich I see on a regular basis.
-Relationship, I would say she has you by the balls, Let her go, She is depressing you. Find a new one who can hang around you.
-Another one on health, get some Iron pills to back up your normal diet.
-Finance, Well the new food should save you quite a bit.
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TrojanMan88
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| TrojanMan88 wrote: | | stop being a pussy...lol |
Maybe I went a little far with that comment, it was more geared to say stop complaining, suc it up and make things happen. Being deppressed about things in your life doesn't get anything done...Trust me....If your deppressed about your job get another one, if your depressed about your friends make some new one, if your depressed about your girl get another one. I am a go getta therefor I get things done...and thats the way you gotta be... "no complaints just make things happen" |
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3 hands
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Oh something else that might work for you is this: Ban all negative thoughts and emotions. Fuck horror movies or gameshows (if you watch them) and put on a cartoon channel and have a good laugh. Catch some comedy shows and just generally laugh more.
If your feeling bad, put some comedy on. Get rid of the feeling first. Replace it with a good feeling. Then look at how can I handle that?
PS. I do this all the time, There is no eek the cat I havn't seen! |
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Ka
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Do what i do when your down...just masterbate.
On a more serious note, i am currently in much the same situation as you, and think i can offer some insight. However im at work right now ill need to have some free time to sit down and get into it.
I have to say so far you have some good advice, especially from 3 hands. That should start you off well. |
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*otto*
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just get out more and meet new friends out or just have fun i have friends that are complete assholes to me atm i think your position is a little better anyway all i say about the girl is back off a bit and use your pua skills lol you might be being slightly more clingy than usual if you've lost your friends and she could be ill it is winter after all
also on cheering yourself up ok masturbating is one way to go they just tends to calm me down lol just watch some funny tv (two and a half men makes me laugh so hard) sometimes angry music gets me motivated or energetic music like sum 41(most of there songs) |
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DTM
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been there, done that... i lost all my friends after high school. here i am almost 22 and still havent made hardly any good friends...just one good friend that is a girl (lol too bad im not attracted to her). christmas is over and everybody's hours got severly cut at my job. im going back to school on the 14th and will only be able to work 1-2 days a week. theres no chance that will cover gas and all my food expenses (im always trying to gain weight). so im going to be cutting into my savings too i had a really sweet showroom condition 1991 Z28 that i had to sell to go back to school
you just have to go thru a real sucky point in your early 20's before stuff gets better. just keep your head up |
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