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Hello there!
I'm essentially seeking opinions out there, on a situation where I'm unable to determine why what's happened, has happened.
Essentially I met a girl where I work, we seemed to get on pretty well so I invited her out for drinks, in total we went out for drinks three times. She appeared to be very interested in me based on both her body language and words.
The second time that we went out, afterwards we went back to my flat to watch a movie afterwards, during the movie we cuddled up and started to make out once the credits came on. Sadly, she didn't stay despite it being 2am and she called a taxi saying that she "had rules".
The third time went very much the same way, drinks, movie, making out followed by leaving due to work in the morning. She appeared interested as she beat me by a split second to initating the making out.
I gave it a day's grace, before inviting her out again however she didn't respond for two days. I did not and was not going to chase. I would leave it there. When she did respond she sent three long messages, mostly garbage about going to the gym/library however the third message stated some "lets just be friends thing".
She stated that she though it was strange that we had only communicated over facebook and had not exchanged numbers.
I responded by messaging her my phone number, telling her that I had no interest in being just friends and that she should text me if she changed her mind and we'd do something awesome probably involvng beers. Then I unfriended her. (I have no interest in anything to do with her as "just friends" and she needs to know that).
I'm not sure why this happened, there was no weak or beta behaviour, so I don't know why this happened. I have two theories.
Either, leavng one day between our final date and messaging her about another was not quite enough and put her off.. but if she was interested this would surely not matter?
Or, she's decided to get serious with somebody else? It's probably that. I'm experienced enough to know I haven't made any mistakes.
I'm wondering whether people agree with my approach and analysis?
I do not intend ever contacting her again (unless she texts me following my statement).
I have a date with somebody else tomorrow, who will hopefully be more awesome.
NO, she LJBF'D you because you didn't sexually escalate. on the first date she was down for sex, she wouldn't have came to your place otherwise. You just didn't make her horney and sexually escalate. her vagina then rationalized that you are not a man who is sexual. And so she gave you the ''lets just be friends'' speech.
Count your lucky stars though, because you don't want to get involved with a woman at work, it's a nightmare. Especially if it's a field you would like to excel in.
The weak beta behaviour was LACK of sexuality in your interaction with her. Soak it up to experience, and move on to the next girl. don't make the same mistake with your next date, risk getitng REJECTED or risk getting ''LJBF'D''
Her ''rules'' are just a shit test.
Report back what happens.