I met this HB9 on POF a few days ago. She made initial contact with me, so at this point I had the advantage of the situation. We had a good conversation going through messages, but I was at the point of where I didn't want to lose interest by becoming her pen pal. I told her that I wanted her phone number so we could set up a day where we could meet face to face. She mentioned that she would prefer to make our first date on SPAM so that she could make sure I looked like my pictures and I would be able to do the same. I initially thought that it was an acceptable idea.

Last night we have our "SPAM date" and her pictures were current and she looked really good. She immediately told me that she was glad I looked like my pictures. We spent about an hour in conversation and I could honestly say that it was a great conversation and it flowed very naturally. Once the conversation flowed to meeting in person and she gave me her phone number and to contact her today and we would set up something for this weekend. So I called her and ended up leaving her a voicemail telling her to call me back. I don't know if a minute had passed, but she sent a text saying that she didn't think that we'd be a good fit even though she liked me as a person LMAO.

As soon as I read that I knew where I had gone wrong. I agreed to the SPAM date. I didn't have the opportunity to look directly into her eyes. There was no chance at kino. Although we probably would have had the same exact conversation sitting right next to each other, SPAM is nothing more than a glorified phone call. I will not be doing one of those anymore. SPAM/Facetime is not a tool to build attraction. Lesson learned.

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IDK, seems weird. I kinda like the idea of skyping to make sure the girl is legit. Maybe I'd suggest something like "sure I can SPAM, but I only have 5 minutes, about to run out the door to a friends." That way it's just a confirmation, trade numbers, tell her she's get something a bit mysterious about her and head off. That way you're not giving anything away.

I'd still try and invite her to a party or something and escalate there.