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 Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 8:28 pm Post subject: How to combat severe AA |
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Everything you read about combating AA basically just tells you to get out there and do it. Start by talking to a few people to just ask the time etc etc. Well that's great if you can actually get to that bit. Some people can't and i've met many people who just simply freeze at the thought of doing this. It took me ages to combat AA and I still suffer from it sometimes now.
Here's my suggestion. Whenever you go anywhere and I do mean anywhere, work, the shops out walking the dog, don't plan to go out talking to people and don't worry about anything. Go out and do whatever you're out doing but look at people but don't just look at them, look them straight in the eye. Every cashier, every person you speak to in normal interaction look straight in their eyes while you interact with them. Once you can do that try catching people eye as you walk past them in the street. If you catch a look hold it for a second and smile. Be sure to smile with your mouth slightly open. Show them just a little bit of teeth, it'll seem more genuine. If you get a smile back then great, if not then crack on to the next person. No harm done. Once you're comfortable doing this then trying saying hi when you smile. After they smile back and say hi try saying anything that comes to mind. You'll be amazed how many people will smile and how many will say hi. It'll boost your confidence and you'll naturally start conversations without even thinking about it. As it's less forced it's easier and it's not scripted so it'll seem more genuine. The less women think you're out trying to pick them up the easier it is.
I warn you though you may find some seriously unexpected IOI's come out of it. There was a girl behind the counter in a bookshop. She looked really bored, fed up and grumpy. I didn't find attractive at all but I looked her straight in the eye and smiled as she served me and she lit up like a Christmas tree. There was an instant connection and she started flirting with me and actually started chatting me up. She was actually quite cute.
You can perfect this to the point where you can K close in a noisy club without saying a word. Just eye contact, smiles and body language. This requires a seriously high level of game though.
One of the most important things I was ever told though sticks with me every time I do anything. You become what you practice and other people will see you how you see yourself. The more you tell yourself you can't do something and the more you tell yourself you're and AFC then the harder it'll be to become a PUA. Anyone can become a PUA it just takes some longer than others. Make it your goal right now and do something everyday to take you a step closer to it. Instead of telling yourself you're an AFC try telling yourself you're becoming a PUA. Your subconscious will respond. |
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Excellent Post! I agree doing the small things starting with a slight smile  to a cashier, maybe someone around the office, or waiting in line is a great way to start getting over AA. Like you said its amazing how many IOIs you find yourself seeing.
I was at the gas station yesterday gettting myself a RedBull and a breakfast bar before I went in to work. There was a new cashier behind the counter, about my age, with red hair. I just gave a slight smile, and good eye contact. It must have been her first day and she was bummed but she seemed like she lightened up a bit afterwards.
A and some eye contact can get you a long ways. |
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