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BigTime
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 Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 8:39 am Post subject: How should i respond to this???? |
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Hi guys - thanks for the last resonse. I got sent through this email today and wondered how to play it - she's a really top girl definitely a HB8/9 and would like to really put some effort into this one. Any suggestions would be most welcome! This is what she wrote...
"Sorry I didn't get back to you earlier. I'm actually home sick with a cold and thought I should check my e-mails, so here I am. Well, I had a great time last time I saw you. You're a good laugh and got so many stories to tell! So I would def like to meet up you again. But... just to let you know, I recently broke up from a long term relation and despite this, I thought I was kind of ready to go on dates again, but I think I am not ready for any serious dating just yet (hmm, weird e-mail this, after one date... sorry about that, but better be honest than sorry). Hmm, conclusion... well, I would like to see you again, but preferably just as friends, if that would be ok with you. Anyway, I understand if you'll think I'm a weirdo that jumps to conclusion a bit too fast, but I just want to avoid strange minunderstandings etc."
We did get on really well and share of lot of the same interests etc. but this seems to be a case of LMR - i call on you oh PUA's to assist me on this one! Thanks in advance and much love
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Nikthegreek
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| Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 3:43 pm Post subject: Re; HB 9's weird email |
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Hey man was just reading your posting, thought i might be able to help. I think in alot of instances women talk/ go on about something random or unexpected in order to provoke a reaction from you, basically they subconciously know they should test you to see if your an AFC, or a guy who has it all handled.
Heres my translation of what her email is really asking you;
"Hi, you seem funny, charming, and i enjoy spending time with you, but i haven't made my mind up wether to put you in the "just friends" category or "potential lover" category, therefore i'm gonna test you to see if you are the kind of man i want, or just one of the other chumps that are gonna wind up acting way to needy around me, and boring me to tears"
Might sound strange, but trust me its all part of her testing game. So here's my advice. Stop worrying about whats a stake and just focus on building her attraction i.e. teasing, being unpredictable. The fact that she has just ended a relationship shouldn't matter, if she feels a growing spark for you there's nothing she can do about it.
Here's my idea for a reply;
Lol one more email like that missy i'm slapping a restraining order on you, i have alot on in the coming weeks, but i will let you know when i have a gap in my schedule and we'll go have some more fun, thats all for now, speak soon
The main idea to keep in mind is you wanna be the man and take control of the situation, and situations like this in the future, and she will respect you for it, hope this helped, good luck. |
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BigTime
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| Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 4:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Thanks NiktheGreek, good words bud. Feeling more confident about the situation already. |
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Mr. White
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| Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2007 4:49 pm Post subject: |
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Uuu, now we are talking about my speciality, Girls that just broke out of longterm relations.
Sounds like a nice girl.
Only warning is tho, to watch out for being the "rebound guy".
What you should do is, play it cool, keep being fun.
Tell that you arent seeking any relationship, just hanging around having fun.
If you meet someone good on your way, you'll keep having fun and see where it gets you.
And to repeat myself, keep being funny,confident and social. Dont start showing that you are so much interested in her or try to hit on her, you can get close to her sure, by joking and silly touching, because i bet for sure she'll feel anxiety and will say she isnt ready for any relationship. Dont hang around her all the time when/if u meet, but try to social with other persons too.
good luck!
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