Attraction is basically just being playful and making sure you don't step into comfort building or rapport too quickly.
You don't even need to be funny or crack jokes, unless that is your style, but being playful is a must! It gives the girl a clear signal, and lowers her bitch shield when you are being playful and teasing her.
For example, last week I was being playful with my co-worker. From how our job works, I get to talk to her every 10 minutes, for about 1 minute, and I noticed she was wearing perfume I really enjoyed.
First Minute:
Me: You smell really good today!
Her "Awh, Thank you!"
Me: But, you're making a huge mess on my floor, you're such a slob!
Second:
Her "Ugh! I'm going mad! I can't stand this job!"
Me: Aww c'mon! Think of the positives!
Her "What?"
Me: At least you make a good air freshener! (A play on what I last said to her 10 minutes ago, her perfume)
I'm doing this in an extremely playful voice, and I can tell by her reaction she's enjoying the teasing. Also, I'm not a pro by any means, but you can notice that she's a little frustrated with her job, and instead of being a "nice guy" I almost completely ignored her statement, but I could always go back to it and ask what is wrong if I wanted too. By teasing her instead of playing the "nice guy" role and becoming her friend that wants to listen about her problems, she's more attracted to me at the cost of the chance at building comfort, which I do not want to be building at this stage of the relationship.
Now, next time I see her at work, I can begin teasing her again about how big of a slob she is, or her smell if it has changed (You smelled so good last week! What happened? ect). If other co-workers are in the room I could even introduce her to them as a slob or an air freshener to teaser her more. (Have you met the world's slobbiest girl? Here she is! -or- Say hello to my personal air freshener, (her name)!) I know this might sound mean, and deliver is very important to make sure she is not offended. Just be playful!
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