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marissacolt
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 Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject: Guys with Girlfriends |
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Ok , first of all I'm new here, I'm a girl and I really think this board is interesting for me. I have a question, I've read a lot of boyfriend destroyer techniques and I've figured they should work pretty good on guys with girlfriends too.
An example, I went out on a date with a guy who I thought was single (his status on a site said so) we emailed every now and then and I decided that I wanted to meet him.So even though he was reluctant we set up a date, and very early on he casually mentions "the girlfriend" I pretty much froze cause I wasn't prepared. We continue our "date" he goes shopping, makes sure to take his shirt off to show me his semi-naked bod and starts flirting with me telling me what a great kisser he is and how he wants to get to know me better.Then he calls up his girlfriend infront of me (!) The thing I would like to know is: How should I have handled this situation?
When our date was over he told me all the plans he had for us to do the next time we'd meet, but he never texted me again so I didn't contact him thinking it wasn't worth it due to the gf.
I'd like to hear your ideas about this, as a girl what are the best ways for me to build a good routine for this? And to make him change his mind perhaps about the girl he's currently seeing.
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rain3131
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| sounds like he wants you to prove youerself to him. hes definitley interested and sounds like he's considering you over his gf. but he wants to get to know you better. as far as the phone call, i think he's trying to create the jealousy factor so you try harder for him. but im not sure. |
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marissacolt
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I'm not going to see him again, I'm just going through this situation again because I feel I didn't really handle it well. Also he was also always pretty reluctant in contacting me, so when he didn't text me after saying he would I just assumed he wasn't interested in me, and I never contacted him again.
But for future reference I guess I need to know when I should" keep in the race" so to speak even if there's someone else involved or when he has one-itis and I should let it go. How do I know?
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stekehmrt
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| marissacolt wrote: | I'm not going to see him again, I'm just going through this situation again because I feel I didn't really handle it well. Also he was also always pretty reluctant in contacting me, so when he didn't text me after saying he would I just assumed he wasn't interested in me, and I never contacted him again.
But for future reference I guess I need to know when I should" keep in the race" so to speak even if there's someone else involved or when he has one-itis and I should let it go. How do I know?
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LOL! its a girl talking about routines and one-itis for a change 
hi how are you doing  my nickname is stekemrt and i have a girlfriend too, but id like to make friends
well i think you should have taken the lead, i mean when i had his shirt off you should have gone like wow nice body try this shirt, or this one blalbla keep the shizle going
then you touch him like isnt it too tight ? blabla he would probably let you do all that and if he doesnt you go like, you asked me for advice dont you, you wanna look good for your girlfriend
and you look him straight into the eyes with a playful look.
he'd probably want to kiss you by then
but he wont cuz officially he has got a girlfriend, anyway your in the lead now, youve got the power. cuz he wants you now
start to flirt with other men around in the shop, but not too much cuz he might think ur a slut.
when you have him hooked back off a little, go try on sexy clothes for yourself, talk about boys you are about to date and compare them to him. he will get a lil jealous
well thats about it, you can take it to anywhere from there.
when your alone at his or your house dont take the lead, be like.. shy and cute
and look him into the eyes very intimate im pretty damn sure ull get laid
stekemrt |
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L.A. Tripp
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marissacolt, welcome to the forum.
Nice to have another girl here.
Interesting question. For this guy, yeah, flush him. Honestly, a good PUA wouldn't pull out his phone and initiate a call to his g/f in front of you. There are better ways to flip the preselection and jealousy switch. That's just being a jerk. I would either tell a story or get another girl in the store interested in me in the moment. This guy honestly sounded kind of desparate, but that's my opinion. Even the initial reluctance in contacting you leads me to that conclusion. For instance, I've got a wife, and I go out and sarge, plus have a few other girls that love hanging out with me. I'm not afraid to contact any woman, even though I'm with someone. And, yes, my wife knows what I do. In fact, she's a part of it at times, lol.
To change a guy's mind about the girl he's currently with, you have to make yourself more appealing than she is. You find out everything you can about her. Listen closely, and listen to what he's not saying too. Take that information and line it up with your own strengths, then make sure he knows what your strengths are. Trust me, at that point, he's already considering what it would be like with you. The better you make yourself sound to him, obviously, the more he will consider making you first.
If you think a guy might be taken or something, just come out and ask him. If the guy has any balls, he will either play around with you with the answer at first, then admit it after he feels that you've earned it, or he will straight out tell you to see if he blows you out right off the bat.
If you're a forward type of girl, and the guy does something like this to you again, push him. Not physically, lol, but push his buttons. Go for the kiss, be forward. Then, if he hasn't admitted anything to you, just shut yourself down. Freeze him out and make sure that he knows the way to warm you up again is to tell the truth. |
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marissacolt
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He was a jerk, which is why I never contacted him again and never will.
But I just don't understand why he treated me so badly. Also he was trying to hook me up with his friends like "oh you should meet him he's such a pretty boy" Trying to piss me off. That's basically like...why? And then the bragging of his kissing. It was all just a situation I didn't control well. |
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stekehmrt
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| marissacolt wrote: | He was a jerk, which is why I never contacted him again and never will.
But I just don't understand why he treated me so badly. Also he was trying to hook me up with his friends like "oh you should meet him he's such a pretty boy" Trying to piss me off. That's basically like...why? And then the bragging of his kissing. It was all just a situation I didn't control well. |
he was definitely trying to switch the jealousy button and he even tried to show he did not need you (he tried not to come off as needy) by calling his girlfriend and trying to match you with his friends
the kissing part was part of making you want him, he tried some DHV on you
all in all he screwed up. he didnt perform the techniques well enough to make you want him
hahah
id say keep on stepping |
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marissacolt
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Trust me this guy knew NOTHING of PUA techniques. So whatever effect he had and got was purely coincidental.
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L.A. Tripp
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| At least you've moved on past him. That's good. |
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rain3131
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| Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 11:27 pm Post subject: |
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| yea hes trying to trigger the jealousy switch in you. didnt do well tho. i sent u a PM.<< check your inbox |
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