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Tony Dedo
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 Posted: Thu Apr 24, 2008 2:58 am Post subject: got the wrong number - what do I do now??? |
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A couple weeks ago I was invited to a club to celebrate a friend's birthday. While there I was introduced to a friend of a friend of a friend, an HB7 or so. I had a good night, I kiss closed, # closed (I had her type her number into my cell), and left the club a happy guy.
At this point in time I've broken through those initial barriers that I have so much trouble with, and I'm ready to move on to the stage of the game I'm most comfortable with.
The next week I went to call her, only to realize she'd only typed nine digits into the phone. I'm confident it was a mistake and she just missed the last digit, and that she wasn't blowing me off.
I saw my friend the next day, mentioned what had happened, and asked her to tell her friend to tell the HB why I hadn't called. A week went by and I haven't heard anything, but I'm not surprised.
My friend doesn't know the HB, just her friend. and my friend is a potential target anyway (a question for another thread) so I'm not comfortable using her to get the HB's #. And I don't want to be too aggressive in my pursuit of the number.
What do I do? Do I just chalk it up as a lost opportunity, and hope I happen to run into the HB again? |
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Solomon II
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| Short answer: yep. If you happen to see her again, mention it to her, but don't make a big deal of it. I've kissed girls for ages and had them hanging off me, gotten their numbers and still had them flake - it's just something that happens. The feelings of attraction dissipate and they aren't as keen on you the day after, especially if you were both drinking. If you meet a girl in a club and get to kissing, you either take her home or you don't see her again. I'm not saying this is always the case but in my experience it has been. |
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Tony Dedo
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Well, there may still be hope. My friend called me tonight while she was on her way to a 'girls night' dinner party hosted by her friend. The HB should be at the party too.
It didn't seem right to outright ask my friend to get the HB's number, or have her give the HB my number. So instead I instructed her (in no uncertain terms) to inform her friend and everyone else at the party that I was VERY disappointed that I wasn't invited. I'm hoping that if I'm brought up in conversation, hopefully the situation will sort itself out.
If nothing else, my name coming up certainly can't hurt any... |
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Drifter99
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| Tony Dedo wrote: | Well, there may still be hope. My friend called me tonight while she was on her way to a 'girls night' dinner party hosted by her friend. The HB should be at the party too.
It didn't seem right to outright ask my friend to get the HB's number, or have her give the HB my number. So instead I instructed her (in no uncertain terms) to inform her friend and everyone else at the party that I was VERY disappointed that I wasn't invited. I'm hoping that if I'm brought up in conversation, hopefully the situation will sort itself out.
If nothing else, my name coming up certainly can't hurt any... |
I'm almost certain this one's done bro, move on. I agree with Dalziel, when a girl kisses you (especially drunk) in a club, either plan to take her home or you likely will not see her again. The next day when they're all sober, they will just think that "oh well I got drunk and made out with some guy at a club". She likely won't view you as a partner potential, and will also think that you may think she's a bit easy because she let herself kiss you.
To top it all off, you told your friend to convey to the ENTIRE party that you were very disappointed. In my opinion, this comes off as needy. Why the hell would you be disappointed? You're a busy guy with a busy life, and you're out at another party or whatever.. thats the message that you should have conveyed to your friend. This way if the HB is there, she'll think to herself "Oh he's a cool guy" instead of "Why is he soo disappointed that he wasn't invited?! Doesn't he other friends?" If you're hoping that your name comes up.. well my guess is that it'll likely make the HB feel awkward/weird around a bunch of girls, when its likely something that she may not want to broadcast to everyone (girls don't want other girls to perceive them as sluts).
I would be very surprised if you could recover this one, don't feel bad though because it was doomed from the beginning, and even if you had the RIGHT number she might have still ended up flaking on you. |
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