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BrentleyKil
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 Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 6:27 am Post subject: Girl @ Work |
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hey yall my name is Brentley andi live in Florida.... and Im 18 years old..
there is this girl at work that im interested in... but she is like 20..... there are other CBs around her that are her age and i need to know how to maybe get her to recognize me a little bit out of the group....
do u have any suggestions???
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ming
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where do you work?
what do you do?
more so... have you spoken to this girl anymore than just asking her about her day/ work/ etc.... |
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BrentleyKil
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| Posted: Sat Jul 14, 2007 6:35 am Post subject: |
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i work at a restraunt....
and i try to talk to her but the older guys are always attracting her attention....
what can i do to draw the attention to me..... |
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kvee
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| im not as experienced as many of these guys but from what I hear alot peacocking would be the way to attract attention. |
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Romeo7
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How do you stand out?
ok, you're really a newbie
so I'll be a good man and help you out
You DHV
Now how do you DHV, you DHV in a subtle way
you could go ahead and start talking to her out of nowhere
and let her know that youre not afraid or intimated by her
or you could use social proof
im sure you have some female friends, if not cousins or something
hang around women, that will give you pre-selection |
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diapente
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| Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 2:35 am Post subject: Re: Girl @ Work |
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| BrentleyKil wrote: | Im 18 years old..
there is this girl at work that im interested in... but she is like 20..... |
I may be reading this wrong, but it seems as though you've already disqualified yourself (in your mind) by thinking age has any bearing between you & her or in PU in general. This is a limiting belief.
You're 18, she's 20... so frickin' WHAT! Age ain't nothing but a number - to quote some famous musician or whatever. Thinking negatively like this is only going to deter you from talking to her. As long as you carry yourself confidently and are comfortable in your own skin, it doesn't matter whether she's 2, 4, 8, 10, or whatever years older than you.
No "techniques" are going to work (either short or long run) unless you get rid of this limiting belief NOW. |
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Zig
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| Posted: Sun Jul 15, 2007 6:13 am Post subject: |
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| ok i get what ur sayin.... |
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ming
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| Romeo7 wrote: |
you could go ahead and start talking to her out of nowhere
and let her know that youre not afraid or intimated by her
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i would go for this one.
some reason i dont think you have even had a conversation with her (correct me if im wrong). i think you need to show her that you are an interesting person, someone she would like to get to know.
a question:
what are all the others guys doing and saying to her when they are fighting to get her attention??
and do you think they are achieving this goal? |
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Difference
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Hmm, Kvee, I doubt peacocking would be the way to go as he's at work and probably has a dress code/uniform.
I reckon the older guys are giving her attention, so when there's a chance that you could give her the attention she wants, neg her. This'll show that you're not fazed by her beauty and aren't just following the herd like everyone else. I'm sure it'd be easy to neg her on any small stuff ups she makes at work. |
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Chase
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I am having a similar problem. I am a server. I tried to game my co-worker. I am fairly new at work and I busted out with the C and U shaped routine when I first met her. Since then she has been ignoring me. She has a bf who also works in the same restaurant.
I tried to initiate conversation but all I received was negative feedback. I negged her saying "Is she always like this" and Ignored her. Still I got the cold shoulder. I didnt want to risk negging her too much because I didnt want to look like an asshole and/or harass her (sexual harassment is a big deal at my work).
I have demonstrated pre-selection by bringing a hot date to the restaurant and her seeing me with my date. and I get along well with my other female co-workers.
I dont want to keep trying to initiate conversation, because then I would look AFCish
What else should I do? |
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Silky
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Reply to Brentley
I agree with Difference.... If your trying to fight for attention... try focusing on talking to the other guys to bring the attention directly to you. Ignore her for a bit then throw in some negs... (remember the time limit rule) set a time constraint so things dont run stale. Then try to isolate her just before you leave. Hopefully after the discussion in the group she will be interested in you. Then take it from there. |
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Difference
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^^ It would be easy to have time constraints at work, as you can easily say that you've got work to do. Could also easily neg with 'stop holding my up from doing my job'!
And Chase, I don't know about that one. As her bf works there, it may not be the best idea to try too much. Don't shit where you eat, as they say. But it might be different in this case. If it's you who's always initiating convos, just ignore her for a while. If she doesn't bother trying to talk to you, you can try something else. Only thoughts I have atm soz. |
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frenchcuffs
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Like someone said above, it doesnt seem like you have tried yet. Be better than those fools and you can have her attention.
The whole thing is too vague right now for anyone to tell you exactly what to do except the usual things. Be sure to come back and say whats been going on so people can better help you get through the sticky stuff. For now, start a convo with her at an opportune time. Dont ask her out, just talk to her. You work with her she will be there the next day, and the next... |
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Chikito
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| Quote: | I may be reading this wrong, but it seems as though you've already disqualified yourself (in your mind) by thinking age has any bearing between you & her or in PU in general. This is a limiting belief.
You're 18, she's 20... so frickin' WHAT! Age ain't nothing but a number - to quote some famous musician or whatever. Thinking negatively like this is only going to deter you from talking to her. As long as you carry yourself confidently and are comfortable in your own skin, it doesn't matter whether she's 2, 4, 8, 10, or whatever years older than you.
No "techniques" are going to work (either short or long run) unless you get rid of this limiting belief NOW. |
HURRAY FOR NLP!  God thats been drilled into me so bad by my NLP coach. Rofl. Some good/bad memmories. That attitude is now second nature.
Think bad and u will act bad, think good and u will act good.
If its a confidence thing, who feels ure confidence? Just you. So whats stopping you from creating more out of thin air? Nothing. Do it. Belive that u MUST get this girl. There is no 'trying' the word 'trying' implys that there is a possiblity of failure (which doesnt exist lol, failure is a learning experience ure always learning someting new when u mess up = winning!) U wont belive how powerful the words you use when u communicate with yourself. Think about it, are u setting ureself up to blow it? Or are u setting ure self up to learn somthing new and enjoy it in the process?
 Have fun, dont get caught making out with her by ure boss tho. Lol. |
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Zig
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Hey B, here is some stuff that I've learned from Nicole.
They seem to work well.
Since all of the other guys or whoever, are fighting for her attention, you need to pull a little trick called the "Take-away." Meaning you go up to her, let her know your interested and maybe give her a playful neg while starting an innocent conversation pertaining to something she enjoys. Then just as soon as you came-disapear. Go do your job and ignore her-don't be rude,if she talks to you thats cool-but otherwise show her you have better things to do like YOUR JOB which is another way of demonstrating higher value. She'll most likely be wondering "hey, all these other guys are on me so why isn't he?" or " Did I say something mean to make him not like me?" Etc. Which gets her thinking about you, which is a damn good start.
Let me know if you guys agree. |
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