Girl Coming On To You

Jax · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 12:44 am Post subject: Girl Coming On To You

Hi everyone. Im a pretty outgoing and social guy so I usually dont get AA but my problem is that sometimes when girls are coming onto me I get a little thrown off and I can tell I start acting very AFC. I was just wondering if anyone else has gone through this and what they did to get over it or if anyone had any advice concerning this. Thanks.

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PrettyBoy41 · Posted: Sat Nov 10, 2007 7:00 am Post subject:

the trick is to identify why you react that way when a girl opens to you as apposed to you opening her, because in reality, the only difference is who starts the conversation, otherwise just handle it the same way as if you had open'd her.

snubby (aka Zen) · Posted: Wed Nov 14, 2007 4:45 pm Post subject:

I think if you go in with a frame that you're the opener and then some woman opens you, it messes with your mind. You might want to use lines like, "hey, slow down, I only just met you." that let her know she's being too aggressive. It could also be considered a neg, and might make her more interested in you. Nice problem to have. Laughing

Bear in mind, if she's opening you, you can jump past a big chunk of your usual Game. If she's really all over you, why not suggest the two of you go someplace more private. If you still need to build comfort first, do that, but feel free to let the conversation get sexual and see what happens, being ever ready to back up if need be.

Interesting question. I want to hear how others deal with this. I can honestly say that most times when a woman has come on to me it took me a while to get my act together. It just scrambles the circuits for a minute. Laughing

One more thing I just thought of. You might look into NLP. It would be nice to have an anchor ready for this situation. Just a thought.

Jamieson · Posted: Sun Nov 18, 2007 12:13 am Post subject:

I'm a social guy with zero AA (most of the time Razz

), but I tend to get thrown off when a girl approaches me. I'm not sure whether to neg them or not, since they're already apparently attracted. Do I need to prove to them, like any girl I would approach, my non-neediness, or simply validate their attraction by being a nice (although confident/cocky) guy?

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