I used to have a free course called the "PUA Starter Course" that you could sign up for on my website, chiefpua.com. That course is no longer available through my site because the mailing system I used for it turned out to be terrible and I shut it down. However, I still want to make some of the content of this course freely available, so I'm going to post the missions from it right here in this thread! It might not seem like that many, but it'll keep you busy, trust me.
Enjoy.PUA Mission #1: You're never too good for the Newbie MissionMission 1 was the Newbie Mission.PUA Mission #2: Approaching Made Easy With Social Momentum
By now, you've done the Newbie Mission and
(hopefully) written about the experience in a
journal somewhere. That was your first mission.
I gave you nearly a week to do the Newbie
Mission, so you've got no excuse to not have
done it by now! If you still haven't done it yet,
do it within a couple days from now before
moving on to anything else. Otherwise, please
unsubscribe from my mailing list. This list is
only for people who are serious about getting
better with women.
From here on out, the missions are going to
come at you at a faster pace. Be ready to meet
a lot more women than you're used to meeting!
Be prepared to put in the effort to do so.
If you had a lot of trouble with the Newbie
Mission for one reason or another, keep trying
it until you get the hang of it. Like I said before,
it's a basic prerequisite to pickup.
Before I send you off on your next mission,
allow me to explain two concepts:
Micro-avoidance and Social Momentum.
These are concepts I learned from my buddy
Chris (known by the name of "60 Years of
Challenge" by PUAs) that make approaching
Micro-avoidance is any time you avoid a small
thing that you want to do out of fear or laziness.
It's when you let a negative thought stop you
from doing something you initially want to do.
Each time this happens, your self-esteem decreases.
For example, if you overhear some people talking
about a topic that you're interested in, your first
reaction would be to engage yourself in that
conversation. "But that would mean introducing
yourself. But that would mean approaching them.
But that would mean potentially bothering them.
But that would mean potentially getting rejected."
All those "buts" are the immediate negative
thoughts that might stop you from doing what
it takes to engage yourself in that conversation.
Social Momentum, on the other hand, is the
opposite of Micro-avoidance. When you choose
not to listen to the negative thoughts trying to
keep you "safe" from any inconveniences, all
you're left with is your initial motivation to act...
and act you will! Acting on your social and
constructive impulses will increase your self-esteem
and confidence to act on bigger social impulses.
Feel like shaving even though you might not
even meet anyone today, so it might not even
be worth the effort? Do it and build the momentum
to do something even bigger.
Feel like making that phone call to your friend
to check how he or she is doing these days
even though you're usually a little phone-shy?
Do it and build the momentum to do something
Feel like talking to that random stranger who's
buying the same thing as you at the store even
though you're afraid they might want to be left
alone? Do it and you build the momentum to
do something even bigger.
Once you've got social momentum going, all of
a sudden you're freely acting on your social
impulses and approaching women just became
100 times easier!
Now that you know about Social Momentum,
here's your next mission:
+++Easy Approaching Mission+++
Go out to a large public place where people gather, such as a shopping mall, a grocery store, a bar*, etc.
Before you even get to the public place, start building momentum! Don't do any micro-avoidance. Do everything that you feel like doing that comes to mind!
(If nothing you feel like doing comes to mind at this point, don't stress out. It's not too important right now.)
If possible, take some form of public transportation so you get the chance to interact with people while you're on your way there.
See a homeless guy begging on the street? Give him some spare change and have a casual chat. On a bus or a subway? Make some light conversation with that old lady you're sitting next to. Do as many small social things as you can to build momentum.
Once you've arrived at your destination, it's time to continue building social momentum! Remember the Newbie Mission? Use that again if you need to. Use your social momentum to turn some of those "hi"s into conversations about things you feel like asking/commenting on/chatting about.
Don't limit yourself to store customers and bar patrons. Take your chance to chat with employees if you feel the impulse to do so. Ask them how they like working there. Ask them how their day is going. Don't limit yourself to ANYTHING.
Build enough social momentum until you're comfortable with approaching random women and "sets" of women and men. Don't stop there, though. See how far you can take this until you get tired out.
1. Go to a public place with lots of people.
2. Build social momentum - start before you even arrive!
3. When you get there, use the Newbie Mission if you feel like it will add to your social momentum.
4. Keep building momentum until you are comfortable with approaching many beautiful women!
5. Write about this experience in your journal if you have one.
*For these missions, don't drink any alcohol. Do not use any confidence crutches until you develop some real confidence!
You will receive your next mission in 3 days, so try to get this one done before then.
If it seems a bit intimidating to do, don't worry.
You'll find that doing this might be a lot easier
than it sounds.
Keep in mind that this mission is mostly about
approaching, so don't feel any pressure to get
phone numbers or any sort of "closes" just yet.
This is just the socializing part; we'll get to the
seduction part next time!
Try to have as much fun with this mission as
possible. This one is all about letting your
impulsive side loose, so it should be fun! Go out
and do this mission as soon as you can. I'll be
delivering your next mission straight to your
email inbox after three days.
If you have any questions or comments,
please don't hesitate to hit the "reply"
button to send me an email. I'd love to
hear from you and hopefully give you a
push in the right direction.
Until next time,
P.S. If you're still a bit confused about micro-avoidance and social momentum, Chris can explain it a lot better than I can. I highly recommend checking out his system.
"Interdependence is and ought to be as much the ideal of man as self-sufficiency. Man is a social being." - Mahatma Gandhi