mmm Its always difficult to evaluate scene when u havnt actually seen it, still ill do my best
The sex thing is a double edged sword, personally i dont like the sex conversations as means to "test the waters". Its a bit too " heey nice to meet ya, can i get in yer pants ?" Dont ask or test" for sex ... be sexy , tell outrageous jokes, take words out of their context. (search for "who's line" play it sexy, u will see they use certain patterns ,use them yell have them cracking up in no time)
To be honest some ppl DO succeed using the straightforeward sextalk, but that is a technique i have yet to learn
The whole "u are so insecure" thing is a NEG , and a big one at that !
If she really think u are insecure, would she have talked to ya for 3H ?
I dont think so! ( Unless u have been stalking her ... wich i presume u havnt...) Dont go like "no i am really secure, u didnt see it correctly !" u will be proving her statement. U are the alfa male , if she thinks u are insecure it is HER loss.
Here is what i would do: i would take some friends (some wings perhaps)
go to the bar and just have a good time ... right before u are leaving (or pretent u are) just go to her and say hello. That way u avoid the "trailing like a puppy dog" situation, u are just showing your friends a nice place u discovered.
Well i hope that this rambling of mine could be of any use
if i judged the situaltion completely wrong, tell me and il revise
As always let us know how it works out
khalam