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She invited me to a public art gallery where her friends are, I'm not going to sleep with her there.
Why not? See, you don't quite understand how this works yet. Women want sex as much as men. They are beautiful, wild animals at heart. They want to catch a buzz, dance, have multiple orgasms, then cuddle and crash. Then they want to see dirty things via text in the middle of the afternoon that take them out of the mundane.. Do this for a while, and you will not be able to get rid of them, lol.
If this girl is attracted to you, she'll blow you in the alley. It doesn't matter. Every moment, every scene has potential for escalation.
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And know NO ONE there. So I brung social proof and brought 3 other of my male friends and they were great.
Why in the fuck would you bring three friends to meet a girl? It sounds like you were insecure, and quite possibly afraid.
Also, why would you want to share this girl, and her friends with your male friends? You got invited out with a BUNCH OF GIRLS, lol. Who knows what could happen. Threesome, hit it off with a different girl, etc. You want social proof man? Walk around an art festival in your town with you and five girls, lol. Guys are not social proof, they are meatheads anchoring you down.
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But I like something you said, one is going to have the role of the male and female and it needs to be established and held. And I thank you for your input brother. What I would ask you is, how do you establish this, I'd be glad to hear your take. I personally make myself too open or easy - if you can go into detail as how the girls can view me as the man. aka leader or Alpha.
Women hate having their time wasted. It kills them. They also can't stand lack of confidence.
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Also, I asked if she wanted to go with me to a trip to another City next to me (I live in California) and she wanted to come with me to a road trip. So I got a day 3rd date with her where we can spend time and get to know each other.
Why the elaborate schemes? You get to know a woman in the bedroom, after sex when you two are laying there. This is when secrets are divulged.
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In an odd way, she's attracted but not returning the escalation or really flirting much even though I'm saying things in that direction. Maybe she's very modest or still attached to her ex. Idk brother, you can say what you like but as a man, as a person that seeks to understand people - I don't know.
Looking forward for your take your anyone else's. Always enjoying learning.
Right now brother, she's wasting your time. You should find out how much more of your energy to invest in her. This is what I do with women like that:
"Hey XXX, I'm watching a fun movie at my place tonight. You're welcome to join"
If she comes over, she's attracted to you. This is what happens to me, with variable examples:
Me: Hey you, I'm watching a fun movie at my place tonight. You're welcome to join.
Her: I'm down. What time?
Obviously, this is a lay.
Me: Hey you, I'm watching a fun movie at my place tonight. You're welcome to join.
Her: Can't tonight. Rain check.
Me: Cool, have a good one.
Then I won't text the girl again. I wait for her to text. She knows what I want. And by me being indifferent to her initially rejecting me, it gets her curious. And as she becomes more horny and curious, she'll reach out and come over a week, two weeks, or a month later. You have to outwait women. The combination of pulling back, indifference to rejection, and directly inviting her over to your place for obvious sex (IE leading) will pull 90% of women on the fence over to your side of the pasture. Next scenario:
Me: Hey you, I'm watching a fun movie at my place tonight. You're welcome to join.
Her: Sorry, not interested.
This is a woman I never text again. If I see her at a bar, she gets ignored.